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How much sleep does your 13/14 month old have in the day?

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LolaBella · 21/12/2009 20:37

Ds is 13 and a half months and has always been a poor sleeper. Recently, he has been surviving on 30 mins sleep a day and i am knackered as he is constantly on the go i have no break till dp gets in from work at 6pm.

I have tried giving him a morning sleep but he is not tired enough, so i have tried keeping him up till after lunch (around 1pm) but he still only has 30 mins, Surely this is not enough for him? He is grouchy and tired after he wakes up but then seems to get his second wind and seems quite happy to be wide awake. He has recently started walking to and is very active so i was hoping this would tire him out even more. Just really wondering how much sleep others LO around this age have?

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Boys2mam · 21/12/2009 21:06

My DS2 slept for 1-2 hrs per day at this age. He's only 15.5 mths now and its decreased to an hr a day if I'm lucky but I think its still within the normal range.

Does he go to bed ok at nite? Does he sleep through?

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LolaBella · 21/12/2009 21:17

Thanks for replying

He goes to bed fine at night but does not consistently sleep through (maybe twice a week)

His sleep cycle just seems to be programmed to 30 mins. Driving me crazy. Today by the time i had put him down at 1.30pm, i came downstairs, boiled the kettle for a cup of tea and had time to eat a quick snadwich before he was awake again until bedtime. I have to admit, my heart just sank at the prospect of entertaining him until bedtime.

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nulgirl · 21/12/2009 21:22

My ds 13m sleeps for between 2 and 3 hours during the day split over a morning and an afternoon sleep. He is however the devil child at night and wakes every 2 hours. How does your ds sleep at night?

nulgirl · 21/12/2009 21:24

cross posted. If you left him in his bed would he go back to sleep? I sometimes find that if I lay next to my ds if he wakes early from hisnap then he will go back to sleep for a while longer.

I am definitely not a sleep expert though and am seriously going to have to do something about ds appalling night time antics

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LolaBella · 21/12/2009 21:26

Hi nulgirl, poor you. Is he waking for milk?

My ds usually wakes once a night for a milk feed and sleeps till around 7am ish. He is usually in bed asleep by 7.30pm and goes down fine. But is 12 hours a night/day enough sleep. I feel i need more than that at the mo

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Boys2mam · 21/12/2009 21:29

I know exactly what you mean. My DS is on the go constantly from getting up to going to bed. He doesn't consistently sleep through either. He is into everything and its exhausting. When it's his nap time I'm flying round getting lunch, tidying up and doing all the stuff I can't when he's about.

But keep telling yourself its just a phase and it too shall pass (my Mum told me this with DS1 and by god it worked/works for me)

What has saved me is toddler groups. I structured my week to involve a session either am or pm at least twice a wk and my days to, for example, stay home in the morn then going for a walk in the afternoon or vice-versa; it keeps him occupied and me sane.

And I always go and watch him while he is asleep and remind myself I'll be heartsick for this moment in a few years.

fruitsticksinyourstocking · 21/12/2009 21:37

My DS is 10 months and exactly the same - won't seem to have more than 30 mins in the day but is tired and clingy all afternoon

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LolaBella · 21/12/2009 21:38

I have tried leaving him but he just sings and chatters away and jumps up and down in his cot. I have tried settling him by rocking him in my arms off but he just pokes me in the face. I have not tried laying next to him but how would i do that? If i put him in my bed he would think it was great (as we often have a cuddle in bed in a morning) but would get very giddy i.e.jumping all over us.

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Boys2mam · 21/12/2009 21:40

fruitsticks I know its a parenting misdemenour but if you lie with him does he go back to sleep? DS1 always did...

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LolaBella · 21/12/2009 21:42

Yes i totally agree Boys2mam i cannot bear to stay in the house as he needs the stimulation and we generally go out everyday. Today has been an exception as he has conguntivitus and is contagious so thought it best not to infect other people. Maybe i am just having a bad day as have been stuck in for most of day!

Poor you fruit does your ds sleep well at night?

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winnybella · 21/12/2009 21:42

I don't know if there is really anything you can do. My DD ( 10 mo) went from an hour nap in the morning and hour-and-a half in the afternoon to barely an hour after lunch. She just doesn't seem to need any more sleep.I imagine by the time she's 14 mo she won't sleep at all.

Boys2mam · 21/12/2009 21:43

IME just lying down in a dark, dark room with them on the bed with you and keep lying them down until they gives in works for me. It has been known to take a while but its worth persisting.

fruitsticksinyourstocking · 21/12/2009 21:45

Feel free to rearrange the words Back and Rod.

I can'g lie back down with him as I also have DS1 who needs attention and it takes me so long to get him off to sleep in the first place.

He did sleep through until a couple of months ago when he was teething and had a cold. then I started bringing him in bed with me and bf him back to sleep. I think he wants that during the day too.

I know I need to break the habit and then he will sleep better but can't bear to let him cry , especially at 3am!

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LolaBella · 21/12/2009 21:49

I know what you mean fruitsticks, i still feed ds in the night as dh and i both work and for the sake of a ten minute feed it generally sends him off until the morning. You must be so tired having to cope with another ds. How old is he?

Boys2mam will try that tactic tomorrow!

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fruitsticksinyourstocking · 21/12/2009 21:51

He's 3.5 and I would love to have some time to spend with just him - but DS2 isn't asleep long enough to let us do anything substantial.

It's my new year's resolution

Boys2mam · 21/12/2009 21:55

Good Luck, come back and let me know how you get on x

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LolaBella · 21/12/2009 21:58

Will do. Thanks for the advice

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fruitsticksinyourstocking · 21/12/2009 22:00

actually, I quite fancy lying down in darkened room for a bit!

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LolaBella · 21/12/2009 22:02

yep me too. About a week might start to have an effect on my bags!

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Boys2mam · 21/12/2009 22:07

And if you're lucky and they drift off again you can snooze yourself for a bit...

... and tell DP you were frantically cleaning while DC had their extra bit sleep

Mamulik · 27/12/2009 15:58

My DD2 is 15 months and sometimes she sleeps 2-3 times a day for 1-2 hours and sometimes she would not sleep at all, but than she sleep all night. I cann't explain why?

Imisssleeping · 27/12/2009 20:37

try white noise - i was amazed when it worked for my ds, he was only sleeping for 20 - 30 mins
he slept for 2 hours with white noise.
doesn't need it now and has between 1 and 2 hours every day (18 months now)

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