DS only wants me!

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I have a 9wo DS who is exclusively breast fed although he does also have some EBM. I also have a 2.5yo DD who has coped really well with DS' arrival except for some standard toddler things.

My issue really is that DS screams blue murder when anyone other than me (or my SIL who is also bfing her baby) carries/ cuddles/ holds etc whether or not he is hungry. He howls the minute DH tries to hold him and can keep it up for hours. When I am carrying him, he is generally fairly chilled and happy.

I know he is tiny and I'm his most important person at the moment but I need other people to be able to hold him occasionally because a) I do sometimes need a break and b) I am very anxious to make sure DD doesn't feel left out so am putting her to bed every night and have been leaving DS with DH.

I've tried leaving DH with a worn t-shirt so he can smell of me which works briefly but otherwise he spends all the time I am away cuddling, rocking, soothing etc a screaming DS...

Any tips on how to encourage DS to go to other people?

He is very little so I wouldn't worry at the moment, but later on I would express milk and go out. Let DH hold him a lot when you are sitting next to him. Let DH pick him up first and then hand him to you. In short-let DH have as much to do with him as possible.

Thanks Piscesmoon, I'm going to make a point of DH holding him a lot over Christmas - whenever DS isn't eating. It will give me a bit more time with DD and DH will enjoy sitting on the sofa cuddling DS

I'm sure it will sort itself out soon when DS is old enough to take notice. If DH spends a lot of time close to you, when you are holding DS he will gradually get used to him.