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Baby Teenagers - 12 upwards!!

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lynfo · 16/12/2009 09:27

I have just joined and was looking for advice for Mum's bringing up what I call baby teenagers. I didn't find much so I thought I would start up this forum for Mum's like myself who have got one (12 year old). I'm trying to sell mine on E bay, but no takers yet. Those days of cute smiley toddler are long gone - yes I regularly get the pictures out and then I look over at the snarling version of that person I am now living with, who thinks I have destroyed every remaining aspect of his life.

Come on ladies - lets share !

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MadameSin · 16/12/2009 12:38

Ooo. yes please ... I've got one of those. He talks in 1 or 2 syllables only, his pants remain inside his trousers until I remove them for the laundry bin, he could die with of asphyxiation with the amount of deodorant in his bedroom, he wears the same pair of socks to bed then to school then to bed again, I have to put the toothbrush into his mouth, run the bath and guide him into the bathroom, pick up cups, plates, crisp packets & 'hairy' toast from his bedroom floor ....... oh lordy, the list goes on and on. Then one day he'll say something so lovely and profound that it makes it all seem better. I reckon we've got about another 5/6 years of this until 'things' starts to get normal again

MadameSin · 16/12/2009 12:38

Oh and forgot to say that his dad and I have 'ruined' his life and are 'SAD' ......

Heffthelump · 16/12/2009 13:04

Can I join, I could have written both posts if you were talking about a she instead of a he. We've got periods here too, for a week before, during and after that she is unbearable. The week when she is not moody and so hormonal she is normally grounded for her behaviour the previous 3 weeks.

So yes, I've ruined her life, completely.

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lynfo · 16/12/2009 17:46

So glad you've come on board!! He's just come home from school. I've done the how was your day bit as he walked through the door - I've just read a sticker on the fridge which says 'encourage your child to talk about his or her feelings. He grunted
I-wazorite, thats 3 words by the way. That was the culmination of all of his feelings.

Love this conversation thing!!

Note to self - must try harder tomorrow.

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Heffthelump · 17/12/2009 14:25

If I ask her about school, she can't remember what she's done. Or I just get a list of what lessons she has had that day.

Are your baby teens a nightmare to get up in the morning?

MadameSin · 17/12/2009 15:37

LOL at your posts. When I ask how school was, I get a run down of what a 'great laugh' they had generally pissing about in between lessons. Sometimes I like to completely throw a spanner in the works and ask him "Tell me something amazing you learnt today?" - needless to say I get a "you are soooo sad" look and a grunt. However, we received his end of term report today and somewhere, somehow he's doing alright - what more can I ask? As for the mornings, I threaten to take him to the school gates myself if he's late getting up .. never fails

bruffin · 17/12/2009 19:32

I have DD 12 who is so much harder work than DS 14 who is grown up teenager.

She is a lovely girl at school who is kind and friendly to all, but at home she is a different animal!

We went to see her in a school production of Christmas Carol this week and she was Mrs Cratchit. This pretty girl came on stage with a lovely smile and it was a few minutes before DH and I realised it was DD

So different from the girl at home who lives in skinny jeans and growls at you if you ask her to do anything.

Although saying that she does tell me what she does at school to some extentbut usually who said what, who did what and what was funny.

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lynfo · 20/12/2009 23:08

To all owners of baby teenagers wishing you a very merry xmas. I may be asking you for a room in your house as I have spent exhorbitant amounts of money on presents. Why do we do it !! Well I'll tell you why, just to see them crack a smile, just once, just for mummy, like they used to.

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SamanthaB123 · 21/12/2009 07:10

We have an 11 year old who is a nightmare. Shouting, moody, door slamming, nothing is fair and nothing is her fault. Her room is a pit and the trouble starts anytime we ask her to do something. Often even if it's something she actually wants to do. It's fearsome stuff...

MaryAnnSingleton · 21/12/2009 07:22

ds is a mild version of baby teenagers described,thank goodness - mostly he's a sweetie but we do get furious eye rolling,sighing,'if I have to' and are told little of what he's done at school if we ask - I spend a lot of time saying 'why can't you be nice to me ?' ! I know he could be a lot worse - he does wash and clean his teeth but sometimes it gets a bit grrr.

MaryAnnSingleton · 21/12/2009 07:23

oh and God forbid we should meet anyone he knows in town -he walks ahead or behind me,head down..

red37 · 21/12/2009 07:28

I have 2 of them lol

red37 · 21/12/2009 07:30

btw I had to order a skip for dd's bedroom once..my friend didnt believe me till she seen the skip sitting outside the house lol

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