Sorry for the long message...my three-year-old son was potty trained in May and has never really taken to it that well, but was doing fine when, six weeks ago, my husband walked out and said he wanted a divorce. Since then, my son has slowly but surely started to wet himself, and today he wet himself six times. The staff at his nursery seem fed up with it and I feel totally judged. My estranged husband totally diminished it today and said, 'Well, I've googled it and it's totally normal'. I said it isn't and besides, it's easy to say that if you're not the one dealing with it.
I feel like I've tried everything - rewards, sanctions, saying something, not saying something, asking him if he wants a wee (to which he says no or even shouts at me for asking before promptly wetting himself). If I notice he's got a wet patch I'll say, 'Sit on the potty' and he'll do a big wee, so clearly is able to hold it in (which makes me think it's not physical, such as a UTI).
Should I go to the GP and ask about it? And is three too young to ask to see a psychologist, or am I mad for even considering this?
My son knows that his dad isn't staying with us anymore, but because my husband hasn't sorted out anywhere permanent to live, it feels like we can't even say things like, 'You've got two homes now' and start to explain what's really going on.
Help me...please!!!