I'm a bit concerned about my nephiew.

[rollonbedtime]

Hi, My nephiew will be 2 in March. I am slightly concerned about his behaviour and wondered if it's normal and just him.
He is very hyperactive and never sits still. He dosn't like physical contact, and from a tiny baby, when I first held him, he was trying to pull his head away from me. He just wants to do his own thing all the time and seems very unresponsive to people.
His Mum isn't worried, she is extreamly laid back. Some of the family are a bit concerned though, as we've never known a child like him before.
I only have one daughter, and she was extreamly cuddely, happy, and loved interacting with people. (still is, and does actually) So I know I don't have much to go on, but it just seems so unusual, and to be honest it sounds really bad but I'm finding it very hard to bond with him.

oooh until i got to the bit about you having a daughter i was fairly convinced you were writing about my son!!!

he sounds perfectly normal to me, just because he isn't l;ike your daughter doesn't mean there is something wrong with him!!!

my eldest hated anyone holding him. he would always pull away when cuddled. and in fact, he has only very recently started giving me (and only me) cuddles at almost 5. if you cuddle him he hates it, it has to be on his terms.
he just has a very acute sense of his personal space.

I've also noticed that he needs constant entertaining. Even as a tiny baby, he had to have new stimulation all the time or he'd screem the house down.

TBH I think it is up to your sister to determine what is best for her own child.

It may be there are issues,it may be he is perfectly OK,but it is up to her to decide if and when she feels that he ds may need some input,if at all.

(I have a dc with SN and spent quite a lot of time in denial that anything was wrong.Obviously eventually I couldn't ignorethe signs forever but I needed to come to it on my own terms)Your dn may be perfectly fine,just not a cuddly child.Not all children are!

Oh, well it's probubly fine then. I think I've been very lucky, as I don't think I could cope with a baby like him. I would kill me. Mind you, it keeps his mum fit.

I meant It would kill me.

My Sister is a little concerned that he's not saying anything yet, just babble. I think this is fairly normal though, especially for boys, or so I've heard.

I do wonder wether he'll change as he gets older, or will he never want anything to do with us?

Hard to tell at such a young age but it sounds pretty typical behaviour to me.

If his mum thinks he is fine, the chances are he is. If you are really worried just keep an eye on things.

If he went to a child development clinic with the behaviours you described they would tell his parents to bring him back in a year.

Unless he had other things i.e. no eye contact, no babbling/words/vocalisations, no interaction with others e.g. seemingly unaware that there are others around him.

I wouldnt every dismiss a family member's concerns out of hand but it doesnt sound from what you say that there is a great cause for concern just yet.

So he's around 21 mths and this can be a time when children are less warm and cuddly and stiffen themselves to wriggle out of your arms.
They are intent on physical activity of every kind and in consolidating their new (ish) skills of running, climbing, sliding, swinging etc.
I remember my DGS was just like this, but by 2, he was calmer and more inclined to interact and respond.
Like chegirl says, probably no great cause for concern yet.

My son was just like this. He wouldn't sit still long enough for a cuddle, didn't want to be held, would rush around all day. He wouldn't join in any activity either - would only do what he wanted to do. He also has speech delay so wasn't saying anything at 2.

At 2.7, he is very loving. He is always coming across to give me or his sister a kiss or cuddle. He has learnt to follow instructions and co-operate for an activity, and can play games with others. He is also talking - still behind his peers, but has a good vocabulary and will obviously catch them up in time.

I believe this pattern is quite common so I wouldn't worry about your nephew yet.

very hard to tell just yet.

my dd was very similar, HATED cuddles and affection, was always awake (still is) and needed constant stimulation to keep her brain happy.

result was me being over cautious most proba, in that I found it hard to relax. I distinctly remember her first loving actions towards me where she patted my arm and said 'pat pat mummy'!! This was about 1.5 yrs.

Some kids just aren't full of hugs i'm afraid.

Rollon has he had any development checks yet with a health visitor/GP ? they are usually quite good at picking up on what's not the norm, so to speak. My son was very much like this and had little speech at 2yrs - he was referred for hearing and eye tests and an assessment with a speech and language therapist. All was fine, except for the speech which he still 'trips up' on. He is also currently under assessment for ADHD (aged 6). Ultimately, your sister will decide if anything needs attention. Looking back, I can remember my own sister hinting at my sons behaviour being unusual. It must have smacked her in the face as very obvious because she's a reception teacher and a mum herself. It just took me a while and a few other opinions to get my attention.

ps you posted this twice ... may want to delete the other one to save you going back and forth

Thanks everyone. He will no doubt be having developmental checks at some point.
He's probubly fine, we just haven't experienced this kind of personality before.
His Grandma tried to give him a kiss yesturday and he head butted her. He has a lovely family, with two older brothers, so he gets all the entertainment he needs.