At times i dont get on with my child, at times i believe that maybe he doesnt need me, doesnt like me and hates to be with me.

[sunburntats]

I dont know how else to describe it.
He hates me holding him, cuddling him, any contact with me.
If i ask for any kisses or cuddles from him, he ignores me and walks away.
He will sit with his dad, loves his dad, but is definitely different with me.

He is 6 and has never been a "cuddly" child. Thats fine, its his way.

Has any one had experience of this?

I dont make any deal out of it, would not want to make him aware of how it bothers me, he is only 6 after all.

Have you any other DCs? Are they also this way?
DD was not cuddly with me at all, but was with my DH, until I had my DS and then she seemed to 'grow' out of being touchy.

I hope you can find a way of showing him affection and him accepting it.

no other children no.

I kinda make a joke about it and say " ahhh come and give your poor old mum a cuddle" but he wont, dh tries to encourage him, but always he wont.

At bedtime, i ask for a kiss night night, i have to chase him round for it, he never just voluntarily comes to me.

So hard. SO hurtful.

I kept breastfeeding my dd for longer than she and I prob wanted as it was the only time she would let me hug her as a baby. She used to arch her back away from me. She is 5 now and about a year ago suddenly decided I was ok.

I really had to back off her as the more I pushed for affection, the more she seemed to resisted.

I would just ruffle his hair, a pat on the back - all of these are forms of affection. Kids are like cats, the more you want to pet them the more they run away.

When i read him sotories, i tell him to "snuggle in" with me which he does, other than that, forget it, he doesnt want to know.

you need to build on that. it is definitely a start.
Do that infront of the TV and then lots of gentle loving pats.

I didn't like being suffercated by love as a child either so i do see it from their POV and I think that is where my DD gets it from. Our stepfather used to force hugs onto us and it makes you feel resentful if you don't want to. He would have done better to have backed off and let us go to him.

He DOES need and love you.