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3 year olds behaviour!!!!! cannot take anymore!

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purplemoonchild · 10/12/2009 21:03

I love my 3yr old DS to bits. He used to be a lovely little boy. Helpful, kind, sweet, and although not obedient in earlier times of his life, he at least reluctantly accepted things!!!

Now, at his worst, he shouts, occasionally hits, points in faces, throws, screams and cries, whines - when he wants something, or is not allowed to do something.

With one of his younger brothers, our current middle child (am pregnant with 4th) who is 2 end of the month, he can be mean to the point of cruelty. He deliberately snatches toys, even though he knows and is fully aware that this is wrong. He is violent, such things as pushing him over, hitting him, or doing horrible things like the current trend - pulling the mattress of his brothers bed, and with his brother underneath it - he sits on it. if I put toys in their bedroom to share, he will throw them high up in his own bed, so his brother cant reach them.

He is mostly lovely to his baby brother, our 10 month old.
He goes to Preschool, they have not reported any unusual problems there, he talks of friends from Preschool, and they say he mixes well and is very chatty. He is a very bright child, ahead of his years a little.

We discipline him for all his wrongs, rightfully so, giving him warnings and eventually leading to the "naughty spot". But he is just so willful! I am dreading as he gets older, because I feel if we dont knock it on the head now, what will he turn into?

Maybe im getting ahead of myself a little, and maybe it just seems worse than it is? Or maybe im not doing things right?

On the plus side, he is very bright, learns quickly, and has a brilliant memory. When he is being good, is can be very helpful and loving, and even kind to his brothers.

Is anyone elses 3 year old like this? Or been through a stage like it? Any help/advice/opinion gratefully received!!
x

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secretgardin · 10/12/2009 23:56

hi

my ds never had the terrible two's, but between 3 and 4 my he was extremely difficult and capable of throwing tantrums that could last for ages. i got in contact with my hv and gp and was advised to do a food diary. turned out he had a very low blood sugar and if i gave him anything sweet like honey in the morning, it would affect his mood later. i gave ds a little piggy bank as well and whenever i saw him do something nice, out of his own and not me asking, i would give him maybe 2 or 5p to put in the jar along with a bit of praise. (after a few days we would take the money to the shop and he could buy a small sweet). this made him realise that i do notice when he is good, as i think it is easy to fall into the trap of critisizing and only seeing the negatives. try and keep your calm, don't shout, be consistent when it comes to punishing naughty behaviour and most of all don't take it personally maybe he is a bit bored, so involve him in small odd jobs you do around the house to feel a bit more grown up...example: pairing socks! also let little things go once in a while...if it is not too serious. my mum told me that she used to do this with us, otherwise she would have nagged 24-7 and we would have ended up deaf and her mute my ds behaviour settled down once he started school. he is now 8 and behaves perfectly reasonably for his age, stroppy, but very managable compared to when he was little. now just looking forward to the teenager stage

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