toddler showing anger towards mother after new baby - ideas?

[alittleteapot]

My lovely dd was gorgeous with her new brother for the first month then the penny dropped he was staying. since then she has intermittently shown real anger particularly towards me via a gritted teeth and some hitting of me. Even when she asks to hold him the gritted teeth come out. He's only ten weeks so it's early days but I would welcome reassurance that this won't last and also any tips for dealing with it and helping her through it. Not sure how to react to her when she's like this...

I did post a few weeks ago and got some helpful responses but need a new injection of mumsnet wisdom to keep me relaxed about all this!

I think it's normal

DD1 wasn't like this but she was completely and utterly in DD2's face from the moment she was born, didn't leave her alone for a second (sweet but VERY trying at times)

It's a massive adjustment, esp the sharing Mummy thing. DD1 was lovely to DD2 but her behaviour in other areas went awry it has to be said...

I think lots of 1:1 time when the baby's sleeping and ignoring as much 'bad' behaviour as you can

Dd was like this, had to put a lock on ds's door so I could go to the loo without fears of him being murdered. It passed eventually and they are very good friends (13 and 9) though they do squabble and make the occasional attempt to murder each other. But everything becomes less intense after the first few months ime.

thanks for these replies. i'm sure it is normal but it sure is tough on top of sleepless nights and the rest of it! i'm sure her old self will shine through...

I think it's normal. Sadly for me, my DS1 hated mummy for about a year after his brother arrived when he was 2. I was just glad he didn't resent the baby. We got round it by DH spending all his time with DS1 ( and not much with the baby). Eventually he came round, probably as the baby became big enough to properly play with.