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middle child syndrome???

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plantwoman · 07/12/2009 13:54

My 3 year old DS2 is driving me insane....
This morning he has pulled a load of tinsel off the xmas tree and ripped it into pieces, pushed DD over (12 months), sat under the dining room table and wee'd, thrown stuff, not listened to me, refused to eat lunch ....I could go on...
This is a typical day.
I try to entertain him, this morning we have played games and made biscuits, this afternoon I told him we could go to the park, but it is never enough, he demands constant attention otherwise he just wrecks stuff or hurts DD, as soon as my back is turned.
He goes to pre-school twice a week and we go to a mother and toddler group once a week. He also spends 1 day a week with my MIL, so that I can go to work.
Sorry for rambling on but I am at my wits end.
If anyone else tells me it is middle child syndrome (I have DS1 who is 5), I am likely to lose it!!! I didn't believe this really existed...but am starting to wonder now
I try so hard to be positive in the hope this will encourage good behaviour, but day after day I feel myself getting more and more wound up and end up shouting at him and putting him on the step.
It is just all really upsetting now as I didn't have these problems with DS1.
He seems to have 2 speeds, run round like a maniac or sleep.
I would be grateful for any advice, but apolgies if I don't get back on here for a while, I am probably busy clearing up some broken debris......

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Curlygirly · 07/12/2009 14:39

My ds2 definately has middle child syndrome. In fact he displayed all the symptoms even before he became a middle child!

His mission in life seems to be making his sisters life a misery or making the most noise or whinging the longest. Ds1 and dd adore each other and because of his behaviour he gets left out of their 'gang'.

NellyTheElephant · 07/12/2009 22:09

Is it middle child syndrome.... or is it just their personality..... I have one with eldest child syndrome (as we have always classed it - i.e. put out by arrival of younger sibling(s). It appears to be much the same as your middle child syndrome!! My middle child is an angel!

plantwoman · 08/12/2009 11:56

personally I don't believe in middle child syndrome - I think he was starting to become like this before DD was born, i thnk it is his personality.
I have been made to feel slightly better this morning talking to a woman at swimming who's DS is 3 after xmas and is excatly the same at the moment. (he is the youngest - not a middle child. She is tearing her hair out and asked ME for advice ! Ha!
Maybe because DS1 is (generally) well behaved now, I am looking through rose tinted specs at his toddler years, maybe he was as bad as DS2.
I guess I just needed someone to tell me that I am not alone!

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