he has been potty trained for nearly 3 years, and knows full well how and when to go to the loo. he has had 1 accident at school, but the real problem is at home. he is having at least 1 accident a day, most days. i didn't do anything to a long time, only reassuring him, and coaching him on listening to what his body is telling him. i eventually decided to apply a sanction when he had an accident- going to bed straight after bath (usually less than 1/2hr early), it's something he hates but i couldn't think of anything else, i just couldn't carry on. it's not the washing or mopping up that worries me, it's a skill he has to develop. I fear for him in a social setting if he gets known for it.
i must stress that there is no physical reason for this! he can control himself very well, too well in fact. he pushes the pee back over and over (I see him jumping about) until he can't control it. i tell him to go, but he insists he doesn't need. perhaps i should frogmarch him through?
i really don't know what to do for the best. obv i don't want him to get a complex, but he needs to go to the loo!