Difficult 5 year old - OMG the moaning!!!!

[Nagley]

Hi there.

I am just writing to see if anyone is experiencing the same problem with their five year old.

My DS is generally a good boy, but recently moans at everything. After school he asks what we are doing, if I say going home, he says that is soooooooooooo boring.

At the weekend if we dont have an activity planned for the day he moans!!!!

At bedtime he moans it is boring (although he is very good at going to sleep).

He says all his toys are for babies!

Any words of wisdom. I try my best to ignore him, create new games and explain to him that he is lucky?!?!?!

Anyone else having these problems?

Thanks.

no words of wisdom sorry, my ds can be like this on and off has been for years. he is now 11.
although he knows when he is pushing it to far- i tell him he is going to stay with my mother, the threat usualy sorts him out for a few weeks!

Has he just started school this year? DD (4.11) has and all I get now is 'it's not faaaair' and 'liiiisten'. Really annoying.

We have had words a few times and she's reduced it a bit. I think it's them hearing the older kids in the playground and trying it on for size. Blimming annoying though.

My 4yo has done this, I either take off a star from his star chart (he gets a star each day he gets dressed on his own, and a jelly baby for 6 stars, how tight a I?), or else he gets a treat on Saturday (comic / bun) if he has had a whole mon free week.

Carrot seems to work better than stick.

how wearing that can be! you have my sympathy. but no real advice.

my ds has just started school and has started being sooo cheeky. in a way that's easier to deal with, he often needs a "don't you talk to me like that, young man!" but general whining doesn't often deserve an actual response like that, it's more cumulative!

(sigh)

What would your mum have done to you if/when you were behaving like that at his age?

What would have been your reaction? If you are like most people, she'd have shut you up one way or another pretty quickly.

Remember those methods and use them on your son.

Simple.

My DS is the same hun, don't fret...it's school life and mixing with other children that display all these bad habits that we had successfully sheltered them from until now!!
My DS is in yr 1 now, and little has improved, he now waves his head from side to side and talks to me in a silly voice (v.irritating!)...a threat of no dessert, or straight to bed after dinner usually stops him in his tracks tho (and if not, i follow thru).
Use all those little cunning mummy tricks that we seem to know immediately upon having children
Good luck x

2 things I find work on DS who's also 5. One I got from on here, which is when he starts, tell him Mummy can't hear you when you talk in that moany voice. And don't answer him til he stops moaning, except to repeat that you can't hear him.

Other one that also works (depends on the situation) came to me one day ages ago, I was in a silly mood, and DS came along moaning about something or other, and I started singing "GRUMPY GRUMPY GRUMPY DS" (in a funny deep voice to the tune of umm, 'Stop the bus we want a weewee')

It makes DS burst out laughing, it's become a bit of a family joke now, and I had it played back on me recently - didn't even realise I was moaning, when DD and DS burst into song ..."grumpy grumpy grumpy MUMMY".

My 4 yr old DD started the '..it's so boring..'line after she had a spell of watching too much tv. I was heavily pregnant at the time and lost the will to argue. I simply got a big box, took away one toy after the other until they were all hidden. I then turned off the tv and just ignored her bad behaviour. She eventually realised what boring really was and I guess didn't like it very much. Six months on and we're doing just fine.

I just searched this as I hve the same problem but its my DD. This thread is old, please tell me it was a very short phase?

It is old...and I hate to tell you but my DD2 has been like this since she hit 3 and still does the odd 'I'm tiiiiiired' or 'I'm boooooreeeed' or 'I'm huuuungryyyyy' even if she has 1) just got up 2) got a zillion things to play with or 3) has just eaten a huge meal!! I think it is attention seeking and it drives me insane!!

oh, and she is 7 now!