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How often does your 2 year old cry and how do they respond to family members?

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smileyboy · 06/12/2009 15:51

Just wondering why my 2.4 year old has gradually become more and more shy around family members. Not people he sees daily but people who he should be familiar with like great grandparents etc. If they or strangers talk to him he refuses to respond and just looks away or looks at me to answer for him even though he is fairly verbal. He will take a while to warm up to them and then will make converstaion with them after a while of them being here. Also he never says 'bye', he used to but now he just looks at people and then looks at me to say bye for him.

Also... how often do your 2 year olds cry on average? I realise it seems like a strange question but having NEVER been a particularly demnding baby, ds now seems to be quite a sensitive and strong willed toddler. He cries fairly regularly, often when I ask him whats wrong he'll say 'I don't know'. He has to get his own way or he will squeal which is probably quite common but sometimes it seems as though he cries as much as my sister's newborn! He was always so chilled but now he seems to have such a temper.

He argues over everything. 'Don't wat to go shoppping', 'don't want my shoes on', don't want a nap' (though he clearly needs one) 'don't want my dinner' and so on.

I seem to spend my days trying to cojole him into doing things. When I play with him he seems very bossy 'No no no I'll do it', 'Mummy, you sit there' 'Mummy hold that' on and on which would be OK but the second I don't obey him he gets angry and cries.

Tell me it's a phase! He is just getting a bit of a reputation and toddler group as being oversensitive and one of the women there called him a 'drama queen' on Friday which upset me a bit as I thought it was all fairly standard toddler behaviour but now I have my doubts!

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Fruitysunshine · 06/12/2009 15:52

I am not so concerned a out DS(2) crying, but more this increased shyness, also around people she should be more comfortable with.

She just goes very quiet, still and stares at the floor until I pick her up to comfort her.

smileyboy · 06/12/2009 15:57

Interesting. I wonder if it's a 2 year old stranger anxiety thing?? He was just never shy or clingy as a baby and now he seems to just not want to be picked up by anyone but me and his daddy, won't give kisses or cuddles to family and now won't even say 'hello' or 'bye' to them! Seems to have come on gradually since he turned 2, before that he was a bit of an extrovert!

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Fruitysunshine · 06/12/2009 17:20

That is exactly how it has developed with our DD. I am putting it down to a phase and will monitor it over the next 2-3 months.

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