advice on how to deal with my 5 year old.

[Happymummyof3]

Hi

My 5 year old daughter (she'll be 6 in March)has always been strong willed when it comes to her clothes. We always kind of found a way round it but recently she has become unbearable.
She is so fussy with pants and only wears socks to school. She has started crying everytime she has to get dressed, she was living in her leggings (they didn't dig in her like jeans do) but as they had been washed yesterday she didn't want to wear them today. She cried for about an hour. In the past I have shouted at her and made her wear whatever I picked but this achieves nothing she screams as if if I'm murdering her. So today she has eventually got dressed wearing a t shirt (but she wouldn't put her arm through it!!!!!)and a summer skirt and we went to nannys with no coat. (thats another thing she hates wearing) I have heard various different reasons for example she's just pushing the boundries or she just wants attention (I have 2 other children 2 and 1) but i'm beginning to think she's got serious issues with her clothes.
Has anyone else had this kind of thing or if you can give me any advice before I loose the plot!

Does she not like the feel of other things also?
Sounds a bit like tactile defensiveness.
Maybe talk to your GP if it is bothering her that much that it effects normal every day life.
I am doing a degree course in child care and have only just heard of it too.

you need to get in touch with katie holmes and set up a support group

seriously, it sounds like a boundaries/control issue.

My friend had the same situation with her DD.
she revisited the closet and only left "appropriate" seasonal clothes and just let her DD take her pick.

good luck.

am sure somebody will post soon with more useful advice!

link here to a website dealing with tactile defensiveness

She is ok with everything else.
I did think about taking her to the doctors but then thought it just sounded silly.
The thing is if she has something new, for instance I bought her a cardigan she wore it non stop for a week but then decided she didn't like it and won't wear it now! The more I think about it the more I think she's just pushing it but it's how to deal with it. Do I let her wear what she want's and go out as if it July and let her catch pneumonia or do i really put my foot down (which I have tried to do) and say she is 5 she will wear what I tell her to wear and have the major tantrum everyday which upsets the other 2.