Violent behavior 9 year old girl.

[stevie1978]

Help Please!!!

I have a 9 year old daughter who has violent behavior issues. That only show at home (not school)

This has been ongoing for since she was the age of 5 and over the past 2 months got alot worse and frequent.

Anything can trigger the behavior (nothing in particular from asking to do things or just walk in through the door from school like it).

The behavior is only directed at myself and her mother (not her 18 month old sister (this has not got worse since having her sister)).

The behavior can result in a room of the house being turned upside. Cushions being thrown, shoes being thrown, hurtful things being said or just us being punched and kicked. One incident did result in her being taken to A&E where she hurt herself more when kicking me.

I have spoken to the GP, who referred me to the health visit, who then referred me to the school nurse. Apparently before being referred to a behavioral clinic we must attend a parent support group for 4-6 weeks before then being considered for referral to a behavioral clinic.

Is there anyway we can get professional help now as my wife is scared when these episodes occur now and we are scared that these episodes (that last for hours) may result in injury to the 18month old.

We are people who do not like groups. Plus there are no spaces until February. We need help now as the episodes are getting more and more violent and my wife is petrified when these happen.

I can only sympathise with you and your situation. From your post it sounds as though you will have to take the time it takes to go through the official channels. You may be able to get professional help now if you are able to pay for it privately but this may be expensive.

I hope someone else can come along here who can give more proactive advice.

Are you in a position to pay for a private assessment with a child phsychciatrist ?

Go back to your GP and ask to be referred to your local Child and Adolescent Mental Health team (CAMHS). The behavioural support service might be good but if you aren't 'group' kinds of people then I believe that you are entitled to ask for a different type of support. I can see that what you are up against is maybe a kind of gatekeeping of services but, whilst behavioural techniques/parenting groups will probably give you some help, there might be other things going on here that a straightforward behavioural approach will not get to.

I was going to post the same as neverjam. CAHMS should be able to deal with your dd without the whole gatekeeping process.

At the moment we are not in a position to pay for private as unfortunately I was made unemployed in August. Thank-you for all your advice. Any other would be beneficial.