help me!!!!

[gorge2003]

OK so my ds (3.5 years) is ridiculously attatched to his dummy (only at home though) I want to try and get him to not have it anymore....

how the hell do i go about this? Im sure im not the only person who is stuck on how to get him to give it up but hes 4 in march and i think its about time he gave it up...

have tried explaining he is a big boy and doesnt need it but that doesnt get through!

in your shoes i would say don't worry, its not like he will be 18 and still sucking dummies - it will come in time - and so why take it off him if he likes it.

but

if you want to - i know some parents who have given it to santa

Why are you so adamant that he should give it up now?

If it's teeth concern, my dentist told me that until they are starting to lose their teeth, it's ok so long as you limit times of having it.

I would start slowly,If you try and encourage it only at bedtimes to begin with, perhaps have it for storytime, then, after story, only when about to go to sleep, etc.

Or for the really brave. (I used this version but mine were 4 and half), just say, no more dummy, throw them all out and stick to it.

Good luck.

ok maybe he can have it for a bit longer lol! after all its only at home...alot of the family have started the 'he shouldnt have a dummy anymore'....

will try only letting him have it at bedtime!

tell family to piss off!

My ds put his in his stocking for Father Christmas to give to a new baby and got a pressie in return

oh it's the shouldn't he have stopped that by now pressure.

In all walks of parenting, the right way to parent your child is the way that works for your family

Dummies, thumb sucking, cosleeping, breastfeeding, bottlefeeding. everyone has an opinion on how you should parent your children. My philosophy for all is if it works and you are ok/even happy with it, then it's the right way.

my dd 3.11 still loves her dummy , he will be 4yrs on the 31/12 & i haven't got the heart to take it off her , she has atopic eczema & gets great comfort with her dummy , tell your family to mind their own business

Dd2 is 3.8 and still uses her dummy when at home, i try not to let her have it unless she is upset or sleepy. I can't explain to dd why she doesn't need her dummy because she is Autistic but i have reduced how much she uses it by just removing them until bed time.

my DS is just 3 and I am worried about his dummy which he loves and sometimes I think its us giving in and not being firmer is the problem ( he is the baby of 4 and 12 yr between him and the last one) he still has it but of late we have been firmer and he has now started sucking his thumb which I'm told is worse, but I have to say Custardoloves ( this is embarassing ) but I actually had my blanket till I got married and my DH made my throw it away the night before we got married lol .....

lol i suppose its the same with me and my teddies...im 23 nearly and still sleep with two teddies...DH isnt bothered by it at all....how embarrassing is that

We did a simple 'trade' with DS 2. Went to shop, chose 'special' toy ( not too expensive though!) which marked the end of needing a dummy. Made a fuss of him and said how grown up he was now.Left the toy wrapped up till bedtime so that he had something to look forward to and he was fine with it. I don't think it's a good idea to do it suddenly.

He also had a blanket, or rather remains of one,which I would never have got rid of. I think it's probably still somewhere in the darkest recesses of the house with all the other junk .

Gorge I still have a 'silky' comes everywhere with me. Always have a spare one in my handbag or my pocket. 4 came to Africa with me and I brought some into the hospital when I was having DD. I'm 29 next month...never ever giving up my 'silky'!!!

DD sucks a bib but like op ds only at home and when tired/going to sleep.

Not sure how I am going to get it off of her....