My dd is causing us lots of problems at the moment, having tried a few things I feel at a loss of where to go next. I have always I feel had a close and good relationship with her, I guess its the arrival of a new baby 12 weeks ago which has exacerbated bad behaviour e.g. tantrums, demanding attention constantly.
We went away this weekend to stay with a friend and she had us up most of the night. She was then tired the next day and pretty much ruined the next day and we ended up going home early. She sleeps well at home generally but is terrible when we go away.
At the moment she has one or more major tantrum a day. Everything is a big deal, refuses baths, every minor step of the day is a deal to be negotiated e.g. getting dressed, teeth, hair, 'my tv'. Thankfully she is affectionate to her new sister and I know this is probably just adjustment but it seemed to be getting better.
I have tried ignoring, rewarding good behaviour, naughty step/time out, pasta jar method ( only in last week).
I have resorted to smacking her hand on a few occasions. I don't really want to do this.
I dread going away as we just end up up all night and its just not worth it. We don't do it often. Is this a common toddler thing that she will grow out of? Other people who I have asked about it say their children sleep fine away from home.
My instinct tells me if I keep trying with the above ( not the smacking) and with time it will get better but I feel I am not dealing with it very well.
To make it all the more annoying she is perfect at nursery, everyone thinks she is an angel other than those who have witnessed the almighty kick offs at home/when staying away.
Any advice or similar experiences?? Please tell me this will get better