Shehnaz and Emmalouise, I am just going to tell you my story (many on here have read it and a lot of them went through it with me as I desperately posted on here looking for answers and support!).
Me and dh we delighted when we had our son. He was beautiful and healthy and everything should have been perfect.
It didn't take long before everything began to unravel. We brought him home and he was just so grumpy and cried all the time unless I paced around with him on my shoulder and I couldn't even stand still long enough to make a cup of tea. He would scream constantly unless in motion. People said it could be reflux or milk intolerance, had everything checked out at the doctors and even tried reflux medication to see if it changed anything but it didn't. Took him for Cranial Osteopathy after being recommended it on mumsnet but again nothing changed.
It felt like we were constantly on edge waiting for his meltdowns which obviously didn't help him.
We were miserable. Even when he around 7 months old he was terrible. Whilst he was being held and walked around with you could never really cuddle him or enjoy him because he was so miserable and just glared and frowned at everyone. Although he could smile from 6 weeks, he rarely did. He was over sensitive to everything, noise, new people, bright lights, anyone else but me or dh holding him and he'd scream, someone only had to talk to him and he'd cry. I was convinced he had some sort of personality disorder at one point.
He had to be fed to sleep cos he would never relax enough to drift off for a nap. He would cry constantly in the car seat, cry in the pushchair, just constantly crying and we couldn't go anywhere. We even had to take it in turns to eat while one of us paced up and down the room jiggling ds about just to stop the crying. I wrote many frenzied and desperate messages on here over the first 9 months of my son's life! I always dreamed of how motherhood would be and whilst I realise it would be hard work, nothing prepared me for how it really was and it broke my heart.
Anyway, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Some babies are just like this. No real explanation for it or any reason. I tend to think that babies who are like this are either in pain (which should be ruled out by a Dr if you are concerned) or just like my ds through personality and frustration.
My ds is now 2 and is fabulous! Now I know him and he can talk and tell me what he wants or doesn't want I can totally tell why he was like this as a baby. He is feircely independant (all I hear is 'no I'll do it all by myself... don't hold my hand... I can do it etc'). He still very sensitive (in a good way). Basically all the issues he had as a baby were because his personality just did not match well the bordom and dependancy of being a young baby. He wanted to do things and explore, go where he wanted, move around, touch everything, communicate. Basically he was born with a toddler's personality in a newborn baby's body which must have driven him completely mad.
He is still constantly on the go and active but he's a very thoughtful, focused little boy. He knows what he wants and isn't afraid to tell you when you do something he doesn't like! BUT.... he is gentle, very loving and very talkative (never ever shuts up!). His sensitivity is now a wonderful thing because he is so gentle with other children and has such empathy for people because he feels so much. He is probably NO more demanding than any other 2 year old but is soooo rewarding because of his uniqueness. Because he is so sensitive it means that he genuinely wants to make us happy because he picks up on people's emotions so much.
Anyway, I am waffling on (I like to talk too so I can see why my ds is the same!)
Just to let you know that it won't last forever. My ds got so much better once he could walk and a hundred times better when he could talk which probably seems like a million miles away but believe me it will pass and you will survive, somehow! Sorry for rambling on a bit!