Getting exasperated with 3.2yo ds keeps wetting himself at playschool

[cruisemum1]

I must admit I am now getting increasing frustrated and annoyed that My ds, who has been out of nappies for nearly a year, wets hinself every time he goes to playschool. I was very understanding at first as it was new to him blah blah blah but now nearly 3 months on I am getting to the end of my tether with it. His keyworker is great with him and does ask him if he needs a wee and I make sure we go as soon as we arrive just in case. This morning he wet his trousers twice at playschool and twice more at home! I am getting cross and need some advice, I have been patient and that didn't make any difference.

Hi, just to add a couple more suggestions into the pot. Having similar problems with dd1 (3,5). She has been dry for over a year but is consistently having accidents at preschool. I went in to talk to them about it as I know it's not 'her'. They then watched her really carefully and came back with the following:

• if there's anyone else in the loo at the same time she will often start chatting and then get distracted and forget to go even though she is in the loo at the time

• she takes far too much pleasure in choosing what clothes out of her bag to wear to replace the wet ones!!

So it's not necessarily even anything medical - they need to check that he knows where the toilet is, that he knows who to ask and how to ask, because if he is only used to having to tell you, he might not understand how to ask another adult(I would practice or do some role play at home).

My DS (3.6 now) has had a phase of this over the last 3 months - like your DS, seemed very much related to starting nursery school. It doesn't seem uncommon, and I do sympathise!

I can't offer much advice, but agree that the best thing to do is to try and be as chilled as possible. I haven't always managed it!

At present DS has just recovered from a horrendous gut bug which put wet pants into proportion (hope not TMI ...) and appears to be back to normal with weeing.

Good luck!

my dd did this when she first started nursery she was just 3 but dry for 6 months. I used a sticker chart with a big reward at the end and it worked for us and she grew out of it pretty quickly.

Iy is so frustrating I agree i really struggled when they;d been so dry for so long but hang in there reward the good behaviour and all that and know it will come to an end

I never ask if a child needs the toilet ( I am a nursery nurse).
I take them, if they resist I tell them they need to try. I don't put any pressure on them. Most times they will do a wee when they are sat on the toilet. I use stickers, it does work, imho.
I never get cross or annoyed if they have accidents. I get them to help to get them changed.
Sometimes, children can have lots of accidents. That's just children for you. totally unpredictable.
If a child is suddenly having problems, then medical advice is needed. Has he been holding it in and done some damage?