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Finger / Nail biting

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Clydesdale · 17/11/2009 09:23

My 6 year old DS has a nasty habit of biting his fingers (and toes if he gets a chance!

His nails are so low he has started biting his fingers and they are now bleeding.

Am at my last remaining wits end. Stop and grow does not seem to work.

Am now seriously considering keeping him in gloves - permenantly! Probabally npt a good idea as chilc cruelty will be shouted t me as will have to sew them on to stop him removing them!!

Has anyone any good tips on how to stop him (or at least slow him down!)

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lolapoppins · 17/11/2009 09:49

I have a six year old ds as well, he is not a nail biter (sometimes wish he was, the fuss he creates having hi nails cut) but I am a chronic nail and finger biter and always have been since I was a toddler.

I remember as a child my mother trying everything to stop me doing it, and tbh, it just made it worse. The more of an issue she made of it the more I did it. Gloves, rubbing mustard or chilli on my fingers before school (I used to wash it off), stop and grow - the works. Her friend was a self taught hypnotherapist, and she even tried that on me (still remember sitting there at 8 years old, trying to keep still and pretending I was hypnotised so as not to offend her!).

I know it can look unsightly, but I would try not to make a big deal out of it. He may grow out of it, hopefully won't grow up to have skanky nails like me!

IWishIWasAFrog · 18/11/2009 09:59

Hi Lola,

I was a nail biter, fingers and toes, all my life (33 years of biting), as long as I can remember, and only stopped earlier this year when I had morning sickness, fancy that! Now, I still nibble occasionally. My parents divorced when I was about 2, I'm sure that is what kicked off my nailbiting.

I will second Clydesdale advice of not making a fuss about it in a negative way. I reaslised later in life that I would bite when I'm bored, when I needed comfort/felt uncomfortable in a situation (I would bite, even though it was painful and bleeding, but just could not stop, like a compulsion), or when there is an imperfection, such as a bit of loose skin around the cuticle or rough nail. I would bite to 'perfect' it, wich would (of course) not work, and then bite some more to fix it,etc. I know this sounds sick and ridiculous, but that is really the way it was for me. Maybe it might be worth observing your son and seeing when he bites/what kicks it off. Maybe make a big fuss about buying him a nice nail grooming kit. A few years ago I succesfully stopped after substituting the impulse for something else (adapted from a tip for dieting that I read somewhwere). I carried a tube of handcream with me always, and whenever I had the urge to bite, I would apply handcream and rub my nails instead of biting, to a rhythm, like 5 circular motions to each nail, or something like that. Substituting the impulse in a rhythmical way for something else. As soon a little white bits appear, LOTS of praise or rewards (read expensive new coat for me :-))

Writing all of this down and reading it back makes me sound like a nutjob! But I hated my hands, always hid them, am in a professional position and biting your nails in meetings etc. is not on! so if you can help him to sort this out now, he will really thank you later!

Hope this helps and good luck!

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