i hope it's okay to post this in this part of the forum.
my son (who's 5 and a few months and is in Year 1) is having very bad behavioural problems. and it's causing me and his father (whom i am separated from and living apart from civilly for over a year now).
(as most of you guys will know, talking about your own childs issues is very hard, so i hope it get my point across.)
the school (his teacher, teaching assistant and head teacher) have all brought this to our attention thru a few meetings already. he (our son) is being very disruptive in the classroom (shouting out, throwing things that hit other children, hitting other children (unprovoked), not listening, refusing to do his work, being disruptive and loud during assembly and lunch times...)
while the behaviour is not everyday, it is pretty much one thing or another everyday. we have with the teachers a daily book where they are recording his behaviour during the day, either good or naughty.
we have about 4 weeks ago agreed and signed a consent form for someone from an outside agency come into the classroom and evalute our son, but we've been told this can be up to a 6 week or so wait before someone actually does this.
in the meanwhile, the frayed ends of sanity of becoming more and more frayed on everyone's ends.
in addition to this naughty behaviour, he (our son) has started to bed wet almost nightly whereas before he was dry for long stretches at a time.
while we (me and his dad) are waiting for this evalution to take place, we will be having yet another meeting with the school tomorrow afterschool to see what we can do in the meantime, but the impression i highly get is that the school is feeling a bit helpless as to what TO do.
at home, our son, while has bouts of tantrums and naughtiness, it is nothing like he is acting like at school. but it seems that he isn't bothered if he is told he will lose XYZ privalege is he does this or doesn't do that. he's gotten into saying he doesn't care a lot, that he wants to hurt people, he wants to make people mad or sad.
this puts me at my wits end, as both myself and my ex are loving parents who do not spank or smack him, we've both been believers of positive parenting and praising the good, etc etc etc.
i know this has been long and i'm thankful if anyone takes the time to read it and to anyone who can offer a kind word or some advice. i'm feeling very battleworn as a mother and it is very difficult right now to support my son when i don't even know what is causing his behaviour. it is definitely NOT normal naughty 5 year old stuff.
anyway. thank you in advance.