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Help please - DS (18m) was a good sleeper - now waking 2 or 3 times a night

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Bodders1 · 11/11/2009 09:37

Can anyone help please as i am feeling a bit desperate??

My DS (18 mths) has been a good sleeper for the last 6 months or so (going to bed with no fuss at 7.15pm and getting up at 7am). Almost overnight he has become a nightmare at bedtime and during the night.

He is not happy to go into his cot at bedtime and screams for up to an hour (we have been going in and lying him back down with a few words of reassurance until after an hour we can bear it no longer and we have stayed with him til he drops off). And then....he has started waking between 1.30am and 2.30am and the same thing starts all over again - he stands up in his cot and is ok when we are in the room but screaming like he is being tortured when we leave. And last night, he was awake again at 5am.

There is nothing i can think off (i have racked my brains) that might be scaring him and he has a good bedtime routine, and feeds well. I am feeling pretty down about the whole situation as i am at a loss as to what to do and i am also trying to work 3.5 dys a week but feel absolutely exhausted (as does my DH). I also feel so sad for him as he sounds so distressed although is happy as anything when we are in the room.

Please, does anyone have any suggestions?

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nondomesticgoddess · 11/11/2009 13:13

I recenlty started a thread very similar to this. I haven't had any problems since I last wrote - ds seems to have just gone back to good sleeping patterns. I don't know why, I didn't change anything. Fingers crossed your ds does the same...

randomimposter · 11/11/2009 13:30

Could have written the same post!!

Have also read goddess's thread - and laughed at the smugness (ditto) and the poking in the face (ditto).

My DS is nearly 18 months, and always a great sleeper. Would sometimes wake and chatter out in the night, but would settle himself. Only time I ever needed to go in was if he was ill - thankfully very rarely. He had Roseola a few weeks ago, and was poorly for a few days, and so I expected an interrupted night or too. But he is better now and the pattern is continuing....!

Have had a couple of normal nights, but MOST in the last 2 weeks have been him waking and crying out usually between 2am and 3am, and when I go in, he hands me his dummy (which he's going off anyway) which is his getting up signal (we have worked on only having the dummy in the cot for sleep, so he has had to give me it to get up).

A couple of nights he has had a wet bed, so have not been able to put him back into a wet cot anyway, so have changed him, and taken into spare room bed, but it takes up to an hour to get him to stop standing up, stroking my hair, pressing my nose etc etc etc. It's like the Wide Awake Club!!! He just wants to play...

Last night I reduced his bedtime milk, and when he woke at 1.50, I grabbed my pillow and a spare duvet and went in - he was standing up and wingeing; he wasn't wet, so I cuddled him and lay him back down and set up bed next to his cot, holding his hand through the bars, or rubbing his back - etc. It took about an hour to be able to withdraw my hand, and then longer to be able to leave (in fact I woke - very uncomfortable - at 4.10!!).

Am hoping this is just a phase (well of course it IS, but HOW LONG A PHASE!!??). So am empathetic with your situation!! Have no magic wand, so am hoping as goddess reports, it will soon be over. Because as you say - it's a KILLER.... and just as we are TTC#2....!

randomimposter · 13/11/2009 09:04

hey bodders, how's it going?
Well since I last posted we've had a much better night (had to go in about 5.15), and then last night much worse (12.45!!??). Finally he dropped back off sometime after 3.15..., I then woke up again on the floor at 3.45, and crawled back to bed until 7.30.... Am TOO old for this!!

Hope your week much better

Bodders1 · 16/11/2009 10:35

No real change unfortunately. Oh I hope this really is just a phase!

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PurplePest · 16/11/2009 11:15

My DD - 20 months - is doing the same thing! She's been sleeping well for the last few months (always waking up once but settling quickly) and for the last 3 to 4 weeks has been waking up 2 - 3 times a night...can't think what it could be apart from teething pains, runny nose, cough...I end up taking her to bed with me as am working 5 days a week and would be shattered if I didn't!
Hope this 'phase' passes for all our DC's!

randomimposter · 16/11/2009 12:37

sorry to hear that bodders, we've had 3 back to back "back to normal" nights, he is waking not long after 6 but I can cope with that... so am hoping it's over (until the next phase... !)

dingledangle · 16/11/2009 12:59

Going through a similiar phase with my 20 month old that started when he was 19 months.

Started a thread on topic too!

13lucky · 16/11/2009 14:53

Just a thought - have they got their back molar teeth?? When my dd was getting hers through we had about 6 or 7 weeks of disturbed sleep...and she is the best sleeper in the world so I think those back teeth cause a lot of pain. Hope it gets better soon (my ds is rubbish at sleeping and it is exhausting, I know).

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