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Smug Facebook updates etc: I feel like I am surrounded by contented babies who are sleeping through.

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neuroticlady · 04/11/2009 19:27

Mine is not. My first DS didn't for ages either (14 months before he gave us a full night's sleep. Then we got six weeks to restock on sleep before DD arrived, eek). I don't seem to produce children that like to sleep. And I'm fed up of hearing about everyone else's cherubs who are sleeping through, just like that.

I need to hear from fellow mumsnetters who are sleep deprived and grumpy just like me. It might just cheer me up enough to get me through the endless coughs, colds and tummy bugs we're also dealing with.

Let's burn the midnight oil together, ladies. (And 3am, 5am, 6am...) Remind me I'm not the only one. PLEASE.

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neuroticlady · 04/11/2009 22:05

Oh I suppose I should add that had I managed to produce a child that loved sleep then yes of course I would have posted a smug Facebook update that instant.

So not only am I sleep-deprived and grumpy, I'm also shallow and insanely jealous

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plantsitter · 04/11/2009 22:06

I think if someone bothers to mention it on facebook, it is not a regular occurrence. I posted once when DD slept through and got loads of envious replies. 'Course it was only that one night, when the moon was in its 3rd quadrant and saturn was align with Pluto and it was Tuesday, which hasn't happened since.

plantsitter · 04/11/2009 22:07

align = aligned

2Happy · 05/11/2009 14:10

Yeah it always comes back to bite you on the bum- which stupied idiot posted yesterday about her sons having a lie-in three mornings on the trot? And who's ds2 was messing about until 9 last night but still up at 5 this morning? Bloody kids, always know which days I work and which I don't...

BornToFolk · 05/11/2009 14:18

When DS was 7 weeks old, he regularly had 10 hour stretches of sleep at night. I mentionned it to the HV at my breastfeeding group and she said "for god's sake, keep that to yourself! You'll make everyone jealous!"

So, while technically I can honestly say that DS was sleeping through at 7 weeks, it didn't last. There was teething, and separation anxiety and early waking. He's just two and only just now reliably sleeping from 7pm to at least 6am.

He was also really bad at sleeping during the day for several months so my penance for having a good night's sleep was dealing with a cranky, overtired baby during the day.

StealthPolarBear · 05/11/2009 14:23

DS is 2 1/2
started sleeping through about a month before DD (7 weeks) arrived
which wrecked it again
DD is a good sleeper - up only twice usually between 11 and 5 and can't yet say "I want mummy daddy bed" like my toddler can

DownyEmerald · 05/11/2009 16:22

Mine is 3 1/2, up to a couple of weeks ago she had slept through (as in 6 hrs) a handful of times.

Has recently started to sleep through most nights. Can't really believe it, trying not to get to fond of it! In fact it makes it worse when she does wake up because I am really deeply asleep and very groggy, as opposed to my old light sleep, easy waking.

Can't win!

StealthPolarBear · 05/11/2009 16:53

yes DE i know what you mean - in a ay i'm glad i never had tiome to get used to it before dd born
hope yours continues

claireyBANG · 05/11/2009 17:06

DD was 2 before she slept through. DS is 23 months and sometimes has.

I was just telling my sister how much I want to slap someone we both know who is forever posting "oh poor me my few months old woke up once last night, I'm so tired" or "I can't keep getting up once or twice a night" type updates. Once or twce a night is a good night, especially for such a young baby.

WowOoo · 05/11/2009 17:08

Have not read whole thread.

Ds1 didn't sleep through for ages (still wakes up now ocassionally)

Ds2 seems to be of same ilk.

And I don't care. But I am a bit grumpy!

onehitwonder · 05/11/2009 20:05

Fortunately I don't know any smug lucky mummies with mythical sleeping babies, so the mums I know in RL join in sympathetic early morning facebook messaging regarding our little buggers darlings.

My DS is 5 months and his sleep is getting worse, not better . I am seriously more tired now than when he was newborn, after a c-section. He has gone from sleeping 7pm to 7am with perhaps 2 - 3 wakings, nicely spaced to 4 or more wakings only 2 or 1 hours apart .
It seems to be down to teething, although of course no sign of the teeth so we could be in for a long spell of rubbish sleep. I'm praying it improves before I go back to work in January.

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neuroticlady · 05/11/2009 20:45

A full night's sleep.

I've forgotten what it feels like.

I plonked myself on the sofa with DS who wanted to watch Thomas the Tank Engine, and I fantasised about tipping just a few inches into the soft cushions and going to sleeeeeeeeep. DS noticed my eyes were starting to close and kept tugging my hair and saying 'NAH'...!

You know those facial exercises you can do when you can't afford a facelift to stay looking young? Do you think yawning is one of them? If so I should look about 12...

Oh I wish!!

Thinking of all the midnight oil burners and our nocturnal offspring tonight...

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BadPoet · 05/11/2009 20:59

I'm with you claireyb. Had my babies years before my peers so therefore MY sleep deprivation (3+yrs before sleeping through, both times) met with a lack of interest and understanding and of course there was a severe lack of whining social networking platforms such as facebook. I had to moan to faceless strangers . On DIAL UP.

Issues? Oh yes. I've had to hide the worst culprits.

elvislives · 05/11/2009 21:15

My DD is 2.7. Last night she slept for about 12 hours. (first time this week, and very unusual). I woke up at 11.30, 2ish, 3ish and 4ish, and got bashed awake just after 6 by a jolly and wide-awake DD. It is the only day of the week I don't have to leave early for work

I just wanted to cry and hide under the covers.

onehitwonder · 05/11/2009 21:23

Deep joy! Waking number 1 is in progress, see he used to stir and settle himself again at 9pm, last night and tonight - melt down. It took 45 minutes, ibuprofen (for the teething) and a feed to settle him last night - DH is in there now with the teething gel and his own thumb (DS has rubbish hands that blatently ignore any communication from his brain and so cannot suck his own thumb, only one of ours .

usernametaken · 05/11/2009 21:29

My DD first slept through the night at 3yrs9ms...yes after nearly 4yrs.
DS is 7wks and already likes to fight sleep. He got up at 7am and then finally dropped off at 3pm! In that time he fought sleep in the car and when out for a walk in the buggy. Ho hum!

Wonderstuff · 05/11/2009 21:44

elvislives, I have nights like that all the time. DD is two on Sat and will sleep from 8 to 5 about 4 nights a week. She didn't sleep through until 18 months. People at work have started commenting on me always being tired Today I did luck out because dispite her waking at 2 last night and every hour after that I did manage to have an afternoon nap with her, I think I was probably asleep before her, having got to the point where I could no longer keep my eyes open.
I feel excellent, but won't be able to get to sleep until late, so be really tired tomorrow..

I met someone through the netmums meet up thing when she was a few months old, she told me how she had loved pregancy had an amazing home birth and how her baby slept from 6 weeks. We didn't meet again..

maestromiddy · 05/11/2009 22:08

So pleased I'm not the only one. My 18mo DS used to sleep ok but now shrieks and cries out so loud and hysterically you think he's being tortured :-(
Coming out of a deep sleep in full adrenaline mode is not nice.

I envy those of you who are still bf and can just tuck them up next to you in bed

Is it wrong to give him ibruprofen/calpol 'just in case'?

Wonderstuff · 05/11/2009 22:20

I give calpol if cuddling fails and I suspect teething 'just in case' probably once a fortnight. I think mine was having nightmares last night.

I don't bf at night, but still tuck her up next to me if I can't settle her. I find getting out of bed is the worst thing. When she was smaller I got a bedside cot and it was the best thing I have ever brought. Don't know how I would have coped without it.

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