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2 year old says go away mummy a lot and pushes me meanly

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bumbly · 30/10/2009 22:18

no idea... but is this normal for a toddler to be so mean to his mummy

then reprimand him for his behaviour sending me in a downward spiral!

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shockers · 31/10/2009 23:06

I've found that if we give our name to rules it reinforces them ( as long as we pick our battles and don't have too many)
For instance... "Shockers don't swear". That one really worked when there was an outbreak of swearing at school and when they hear people swearing in the street, they will repeat "Shockers don't swear do we mum?"

MmmHmm · 31/10/2009 23:53

It must be difficult for you definitely

but I'm sure you will persevere and its probably just a phase...

I just think that every time he kicks you must reinforce that its just not acceptable otherwise you are sending out mixed messages IYSWIM

ie I would get down to his level, look him in the eye and say very firmly "You don't kick (or push, or whatever) Mummy. It's a rule. Kicking hurts people". Every time he does it.

I also like Shocker's suggestion "We (the family) don't do XXX" as is is setting a "tribal" code of behaviour that kids can tap into quite easily and want to be a part of. Mainly it leads by example which is the best way.

I don't think 2 is too young to be told. It's not going to be acceptable at 3, 4, 5 either. Start as you mean to go on.

MmmHmm · 31/10/2009 23:53

It must be difficult for you definitely

but I'm sure you will persevere and its probably just a phase...

I just think that every time he kicks you must reinforce that its just not acceptable otherwise you are sending out mixed messages IYSWIM

ie I would get down to his level, look him in the eye and say very firmly "You don't kick (or push, or whatever) Mummy. It's a rule. Kicking hurts people". Every time he does it.

I also like Shocker's suggestion "We (the family) don't do XXX" as is is setting a "tribal" code of behaviour that kids can tap into quite easily and want to be a part of. Mainly it leads by example which is the best way.

I don't think 2 is too young to be told. It's not going to be acceptable at 3, 4, 5 either. Start as you mean to go on.

MmmHmm · 31/10/2009 23:54

Ooh a double bubble! never managed that before!!

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