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DD wont go to sleep. I just need her to sleep, or at least stop crying {pulls out hair}

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 20/10/2009 21:54

She is 3.2. I am 36 weeks pg. I have been sick a lot of today, torn the lining of my stomach, had millions of people in decorating so not able to relax and recover from an epic vomitting session (bloody, bleurgh).

DD has been at nursery. She played up this morning, refused to get dressed for me. She has been fine all day at nursery. Good as gold apparantly. Literally, from the moment I got there to get her, she threw a tantrum, did not want to come, does not like home, does not like me, wants to stay there. I had to mostly carry her kicking to the car, where it took almost 10 mins to manhandle her into the car. Same at home, would not get out of the car, into the flat, up the stairs, not pleased to see daddy. Shouts and screams and finally snuggles with me, apologies for shouting and we settle for the evening.

She goes to bed, normal routine, but DH does it, as he does sometimes. She refuses to settle. He goes out at 8pm and she is quiet. She gets up immediately that he leaves and she will. not. shut. up.

She is crying, asking for daddy, for milk, she will not sleep.

She keeps saying however 'i do not want to go to jail' but this has only started in the last 10 mins.

I have spent half hour trying to get hold of DH to come home and sort it, as I am struggling, phone off, but finally get hold of him, he is coming home, after giving me a lecture as I am crying, not reassuring, but 'ffs you are having a bad night with your 3 yo, get over it'.

I am very scared that I will not be able to cope with two children. Not been afraid like this before but what if I can't do it? or do it well at least? I don't know why she suddenly is refusing to do what I ask, or want to be with me, or play ball...

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 24/10/2009 20:41

I think she has been under the weather - yesterday, she said her tongue hurt when she ate a piece of pineapple, and today, she said her lips hurt, and she has a few red spots along the inside of her lips, like blotches. Her throat seems fine, but i wonder if her mouth has been sore for a few days, but we have not paid attention enough .

She is better, not 100% in her behaviour, but much much better. We had cuddles yesterday evening, in bed, and she told me she missed me when she was at nursery, and I told her i missed her too. I told her I thought she would be a great big sister and I would always be proud, and it was lovely and she fell asleep with me singing her lullabies. Does not happen often.

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FangedGhoulForTheMonstrosities · 25/10/2009 07:02

I am glad it has improved, she sounds lovely

GColdtimer · 25/10/2009 07:19

Pavlov, I am 22 weeks pg and my previously angelic (well as angelic as a 3 year can ever get) 3.5 year old has been really acting up, getting scared in the night, wants me to stay with her when she goes to sleep and has started wetting the bed. Although she is really excited about the baby and I reassure her all the time, I do think she is getting anxious. And if you are doing the house up too that is even more upheavel. Yesterday I spent a lot of time with DD, just painting, sticking and baking and she was lovely. I think she needed my attention.

The last 3 nights I have been out to her 4 or 5 times between 2 and 5 - she only wants me, screams the house down if DH tries and I am also hoping that it gets better before the baby comes!

I know my post has been of no help whatsoever but just wanted to sympathise. I am glad things have got a bit better.

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