DS is four and has always been a handful. He has just started school and while some of the time is a lovely boy to have in the class, at other times his behaviour is unmanagable. Today I was told he might have to leave his swimming lesson (separate from school) as the teacher has to spend so much time telling him to stop, get down, come here etc. She said he might be bored and need the next class up; I fear it is just him being a pita.
He has always been lively. Pre-school contained him pretty well, but always got him to go outside loads to run off his energy. He has been really active since a baby, he runs instead of walks, climb and jumps off anything he can, does not respond to the usual discipline tehcniques that work for his peers and his brother.
ADHD has always been at the back of my mind, but I have hoped as he matured he would get more managable, but he hasn't. Grandparents won't look after him (although my SIL will), though they would my DS1 when he was the same age.
He can concentrate and he has got good social skills - at times. However, about 30% of the time he can be like a wild animal. We had to put a lock on his door, which I really hate, but it is the only way to keep his brother and me safe when he gets really mad, even then he trashes his room and hits the door/furniture with whatever he can. He also will let himself out of the house if we don't hide keys (we used to put them up high, but he climbs and throws things to get them down).
What to do? I am feeling increasingly despairing, especially as I am getting so much negative feedback about him. School haven't said anything formal about strategies etc, but it does like just a matter of time. After he has gone loopy, he is able to know what he has done wrong and say sorry voluntarily, but it doesn't stop it from happening again and again. He has had no major traumas or upheavals in his life, and has an older brother who is quite enerhetci, but not in the same league as DS2.
Sorry this is so long - I suppose what I am asking is what should/can I do??