why do mums go to costa coffee with screaming babies?

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there was no room for my supervision at the office today and boss took me to costas. it was filled with mums meeting for a coffee and a chat. and i noticed my boss was getting slightly annoyed becuase he was really getting redder and his lips went thinner - i thought "shit" what have i not done?

then he said...and i quote "why do women bring their fcking screaming brats out to cafe's?"
it as at this point my brain recognised the sound of screaming babies - i didn't even register it previously!! and i said " what would you like them to do stay inside all day every day with post natal depression or something?"
he just replied rather annoyed " i like quiet and i think they seek me out and come for me on purpose"

Didn't you know girls that children should be 'seen and not heard?'

What an a**e!

REALLY unprofessional of him to conduct a supervsion meeting in a cafe, anyway! he should have booked a meeting room.

Take out a grievance procedure, Custy!

Mum of two and have never let my kids disturb others. Rather than vacuously chat with friends/check phone etc, I speak to them, or give them things to do, or in the case of the baby, only visit with friends when my husband or mother can mind them. It is really disturbing how many on this thread think it is okay to ruin another's peaceful lunch or tea break or catchup with their offspring. It isn't a crèche, or a park, but there are plenty of those around. Buy takeaways and let the kids be kids. Alternatively stay at home and organise play dates if you aren't prepared to respect the rights of others to enjoy a coffee without ear-splitting screams etc. if your child is screaming and disturbing others, stop your conversation and pay attention to the poor, bored child. Some people simply shouldn't be parents.

There's always one...

Lol lawmum this thread is almost ten years old! And also why shouldn't we take our kids to a coffee shop? Quite frankly when you have screaming kids to look after the only thing keeping you awake is coffee!! I do talk to my kids but sometimes my baby (1yo) screams and me talking to her wont stop that and im not going to leave half a coffee that cost me a fortune just so that everyone else can drink theirs!

"Some people simply shouldn't be parents."

And some people should get their heads out of their sanctimonious arses and check the date on threads before bumping them.

O.M.G you got to love it.....

How the hell has some managed to revive a 10 year old thread which wasn't very long or even remotely a classic?? How did they find it?

I'd be more inclined to ask him why he thinks it's appropriate to hold a (confidential?) business meeting in a cafe really. A former boss of mine did this for my appraisal once and it really annoyed me as I wasn't comfortable talking about such issues in a Costa with all the noise and commotion going on. Think he had probably read some business trends article saying it was the latest thing to host business meetings in coffee shops. He was that kind of tosser.

Sounds like your boss is of a similar type. Who goes to Costa Coffee expecting peace and quiet?

He should of taken you to a pub instead

I will bring my little boy to visit him, just started a thread about him shrieking... pah ha ha..

I love coffee shops

Lawmum35, how awful that you feel you can't meet your friends at a cafe without your children, are they so awfully behaved that you can't be seen in public with them? Shame.
I used to frequent Costa a lot when Ds was tiny. It's a public cafe. PUBLIC being the clue there......

In all seriousness, I think the difference between the original replies and lawmum's post is an interesting indicator of how much more pious the general tone of mumsnet has become in recent years. I've only been here since 2010 and I've noticed it; if the OP posted this in AIBU today I reckon there'd be quite a few posts like lawmum's. Probably using phrases like "entitled" and "lazy parenting"....

You are right. I think it's really sad that people have little or no tolerance for small children, especially from other parents. When my ds was tiny I was on my own as my husband was away and sometimes a trip to costa was my saving grace during the day. It can be very lonely with a newborn as we know. To think that I shouldn't take him to a coffee shop just invade he disturbs someone having a business meeting is absurd. If people want peace and quiet maybe They should stay at home or meet in a library!!

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Jiggly....if people like lawmum want peace and quiet theh are the ones whi shoukdnt have kids! As for the rest of the population why are people having business meetings in a coffee shop? And most people understand that kids make noise! Lawmum is a bit like the woman who was next to me in the ward when I had my ds. Her baby cried and woke my ds up, she managed to get hers settled before I got ds settled and she tutted and complained to the mw about that "young mum who cant deal with her screaming baby"! I honestly have never wanted to punch someone in the face as much as I did at that minute!

I agree ! That woman would have wound me up too. I don't know why I comment on threads like these though, especially when they are 10 years old!!

Just goes to show, shit existed 10 years ago, who knew

I don't know. The changing facilities are crap and it's terrible for the high street. Better to support local instead. More to the point, his office facilities aren't good enough, no-one's problem but his.

I am willing to bet significant amounts of money that Lawmums kids have indeed disturbed other people at some point!

PMSL resurrecting a 10 year old thread

My eldest is 10, so that could've been me 10 years ago but I don't like coffee