PLEASE help I am at wits end here!
11 week old breastfed DS has been in our room till now. He feeds to sleep in our bed at my bedtime, then we sneakily move him into his basket and usually he manages to go until 6 am but recently has started waking again around 2 am. We have no real routine with him, he does what he likes when he likes and is a really happy chilled little thing who hardly cries EXCEPT in the evenings.
He is not colicky, just wants to go to bed around 8 pm, DD goes to bed at 7 and you can see the problem with DS only falling asleep by feeding in my bed. Yes I have to go to bed at 8 pm too instead of having any dinner, or else I keep him up and prepare something one handed while jiggling him, and he gets overtired, fusses all through dinner and then I go to bed with him around 9.30. We then creep around in our room so as not to wake him as then I'll have to feed again but he's a light sleeper so ends the night in my bed when I've had him in there around 3 am and fallen asleep. So he is sort of a co-sleeping baby who is in his basket occasionally when he doesn't realise it!
I desperately need our evenings back to speak to DH and we could do with a bit of time just for us to rekindle a sex life too...
I am thinking of tackling it head-on tonight and shoving him in his own room in his cot (never sleeps there yet) at 7 pm and doing some form of controlled crying but am absolutely dreading it and not sure I will be able to handle it.
Sorry to ramble but I am SO TIRED. I adore having him there in my bed to cuddle but it's limiting that he will only fall asleep a) there, b)feeding, c)at my bedtime.
Can anyone help with experience or advice? I've read so many books I am completely confused. And before you suggest it, there is no space for me to sleep in his room alongside the cot as it's microscopically small.