socks are ruining every morning!!!!!!!! Help!!!!

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OK so my dd1 is just over 5yrs and is in year 1 at school. She cannot/ will not put her own socks on. She will (with a lot of persuasion and patience from me and dh) put on her pants, shirt, tunic, cardigan, but not her socks. She claims it's too hard and will roll around on the floor like a toddler, crying because she doesn't know how to do it. Every morning turns into a battle field over socks . I know she can do it because she has done it in the past and I am certain that if I offered her a chocolate button she would do it in a flash, but I don't want to start bribing her to get dressed! Last week after 30 minutes of her being silly about socks I took her to school with no socks on and put her socks in her bag for if she decided to change her mind. I thought she'd feel embarrassed in front of her friends and want them on. No. At the end of the day she still had bare feet (and shoes of course!) and said it was really comfy without socks. So, so I put her socks on for her everyday to save us the agro, or do I refuse and spend every morning with her crying and me despairing? I have to get to work and get dd2 to nursery too, so I can't spend all my time debating socks. I know it sounds hilarious and rather trivial, but actually it is getting me down. Please help!
Thank you

she can brush it and tie it up, but she has a double crown and it tends to stick up a lot and wont go smoothly into the pony tail. She then gets frustrated and panicky over it and it leads to a tantrum.

I agree she shouldn't be ahving a tantrum over it, and that is the aspect that really winds me up. I have tried leaving her to it, and not got anywhere, jsut tears every morning. It's a battle not worth fighting.

I've been really tempted to hack it off sometimes, can really empathise with that!

DS was exactly the same - he now wears 'stretchy' socks inside out - ie ones that are a little big for him so he can pull them on easily - he doesn't like the seams on his toes either - you're not alone

My DD1 used to wear no socks at all, she used to call the seams "bones" and that they hurt her feet. I have a picture of her first day at school with no socks on.
Eventually she grew out of it, I thought it wasn't worth the battle, if she doesn't want to wear them.

am so glad it's not just me who has sock issues. ds hates socks, he's just started in reception and until now, has mainly got away with spending the last 4 years sockless and in crocs. every morning there are tears. but really, he needs to wear them for school, shoes rubbing, verrucas etc.

we tend to put them on him inside out, and i'm just mean. once they are on, i walk off saying i'm not listening to the whining, the socks stay or toys go.

Oh heck, my DD still quite often fusses about socks and tights and she's 10. But of course she changes for PE at school perfectly OK, socks and all. At least she can do her tie better than me now, thank goodness

But her hair... its long, thick and wavy and its hard enough for me to get it detangled and in order for school. Its gorgeous when its done so I'm reluctant to go for the chop yet, I guess that will have to happen next year when she hits secondary.

I agree with Juule. She'll get in in her own time. DS had a similar aversion to putting on his socks when he was 5. I just put them on for him. Now he is 6.5 and he does them himself but he comes for help to get them straight over the toes if they feel uncomfy.

I don't have children that age, but..kids socks are often not that stretchy and are more size specific than adult ones if that makes sense, so she may have felt older ones getting restrictive and now feels that she doesn't want them on her feet at all? How about hunting down some super soft stretchy ones and give them to her to just wear around the house to get used to them, not wearing any to school while the weather's nice but packing them in her bag if she wants to put them on?

Reference hair- aged 8 I couldn't plait mine as tightly as my mother could and was at boarding school, so after a while I asked for my hair to be cut into a bob and had it like that until I was old enough to style it well- my choice and I remember my mother asking if I was sure before she cut it. My sister did exactly the same but went shorter because her best friend had short hair. I also have a really annoying crown!

Are the socks elasticy enough. Even I find it hard with some of ds's socks if they aren't very stretchy.

He can do his himself - but if he whines - I'll do it for him. Anything to get out the door sane.

I've always had lots of problems with ds2 and clothes, particularly socks. Same sort of thing, the seam's not right, the seam's not straight, they feel too stiff etc (We now know he's dyspraxic but that's another story)
I found the solution about 6 weeks ago. H&M are selling socks with the days of the week on. a pair for every day.He loved them. I bought a few packs so now we always have the correct days of the week socks and no problems.
Have you taken her out shopping to buy socks? Maybe if she chooses something herself (and get her to check the seam/softness) she'll be more inclined to put them on?

thank you for all the tips and reassurance. I had decided that I'd just help her as long as she asked me nicely without whining, then this morning she did it on her own while I was out of the room! Contrary creatures aren't they? Now it sounds like I need to prepare myself for hair issues!

I'd just ask her to get herself dressed, but I do socks'n'shoes. She is still quite little, and if she's doing all the rest herself she should feel proud of herself.

Sounds stupid but check they are not a little snug. My son really struggled until we got a slightly bigger size.

Failing that, then I'm afraid I threaten with minor punishments (no tv tomorrow, no sweet things tomorrow, etc.) and stick to it calmly (ha - sometimes).

My dd is 7 and mildly dyspraxic - she still finds socks difficult. The OT advised tying her with socks that have different coloured toes and heels - these she can put on OK herself. ALso, turning them inside out avoids the issues with teh seams.

We had half an hour of tantruming this morning over socks too. I'm all for giving in tbh, as let's face it they're just socks, but (and isn't there's always a but) he has to take his socks off for PE, then put them back on again himself. In reception they'd help them, but am not sure about Yr1. I don't want DS to maybe be laughed at or be the only one who can't do it, so have been pushing it. But if I buy the bigger sizes he screetches like a banshee about lumps, bumps, and all manner of other complaints. I never knew socks could cause such hysteria. Any other wisdom from out there would be most gratefully received. Like do they go on easier if you use fabric conditioner...? or where do you buy your child's most easily pulled on socks from Am v.obviously clutching at desperate straws here..

Also try to get ones without a shaped heel that way they can have them a bit looser where they want without it being wrong.

Isn't it a bit odd that the school doesn't mind? Children in school shoes and no socks look a bit iffy.

Where do you find those then bronze..?

Pick your battles

Just put the socks on for her with no fuss. She has found a way to wind you up.

My ds (8) prefers the trainer liner socks - nice and soft and easy to get on as no leg part to them.

Not sure if that would look ok for a girl in a skirt though