Question for people with more than one child

[PiccadillyCircus]

I am 25 weeks pregnant with DS2/DD and have been wondering what he/she will be like.

DS(18 months) is basically a contented person - he is happy most of the time, is generally flexible, eats well, sleeps very well and is a sociable boy.

I am preparing myself for his brother or sister to be the complete opposite in all ways but hope I am wrong . What experiences have other people had?

dd and ds like peas in a pod, despite 5 yrs difference - was warned constanty would have a 'bad un' becuase dd was a 'good un' during pregnancy

i have add and a dd my son is a red head got a temper to go with the hair,needs lots of attention.My dd is olive skinned dark brown hair,alot calmer, and loves to play by herself,and is very sociable.they both have same father but could not be any more different.

Like Suzy said they're all different.

Dd1 as a baby was very laid back, happy, ate, slept. You could sit her down with a toy and she'd play happily for ages without moving an inch. She's still a good sleeper, eating's not so great but she will amuse herself for hours on end.

Dd2 is completely different. almost from birth she has let us know that she's there and fights for attention if we're paying more attention to dd1 than her. She is into everything, nothing is safe, she rakes through every cupboard or drawer that she get into to. If the bathroom door is left open she likes to throw things down the toilet, if you don't manage to catch her quickly enough. She's been walking since 11 months old and since the day she took her first steps she's never sat or stood still for longer than about 10 seconds, well that is how it seems sometimes. She's also a real daredevil, she's already figured out how to climb up on some things, like the nappy box, she actually climbed up on this before she could walk. oh and she mastered how to get out of her restraints in the highchair to stand up in it, very scary.

But she is a happy, funny little girl who loves to give kisses, very slobbery ones, and cuddles. and she adores her big sister and tries to follow her everywhere.

My pregnancy with dd1 was very straightforward no problems at all.
With dd2 there were a few complications early in the pregnancy but the one thing I remember and I commented on it quite often was the fact that she was always on the move when she was inside me. She hasn't stopped moving since, lol
I love them both to bits and wouldn't be without them

PCircus - your next little one could be completely different in his/her habits. Be prepared for this. You will be the same though! - so your attitude will be similar and this will have an effect on the child. My dds are all very different characters but through attachment parenting are all confident. Even at a little age.

My two dss are temperementally very different.

This can partly be explained by the fact that ds1 has received a lot more attention as he was for the first two years of his life an only child.

Ds2 is a lot more self-sufficient and placid, which may be because he has always had to share the attention and not always be attended to immediately, partly due to the circumstances and partly because I was a lot more confident of my parenting skills second time around.

It's the old nature vs nurture debate - nurture counts for a lot, but aspects of the personality are determined by the child's genetic make-up which cannot be predicted prior to conception. In other words, there is no way of knowing what your new dd's or ds's innate personality will be.

Thanks for all the replies - it will be interesting to see how DS reacts to a brother or sister.

My pregnancy so far has been fairly similar - a baby who moves about a lot, horrible sickness at the beginning. The part I hope not to repeat is the pre-eclampsia with DS - we shall wait and see .

And thank you milward for pointing out that I will be the same and that hopefully some of DS's character is down to me .

DS was an angel .. was fully expecting DD to be a devil .. but a year in and she's an angel too

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