My 3 YR old daughter has been a perfect child until now, she was a perfect Gina Ford baby and has always been well behaved and polite, no terrible two's and while my friends children, bit, hit, wouldn't share, sleep,or eat my daughter was fine. Over the past few weeks she has become selfish, spoiled, and generally a bit evil and horrible.
I am a single mum so we have a really close relationship and we do an awful lot together, she is used to being away from me as my job means I have to leave her some times.
My child hood was pretty shit and I didn't have much so I am definately to blame for the spoiled bit, when we're out I let her have most things she wants, within reason, stickers, colourings, "treats". not expensive things. but now she demands treats everytime we go out, today she wanted a treat for eating a grape!!! and i think because it's just us i'm to balme for maybe treating her a bit too old- letting her stay up late in the holidays for maltesers and dvd nights (Ice Age) and i wonder if you think i've crossed the line between parent and friend? how do I know where to join the line? I love her so much and I want us to be best of friends ( as I never had that), I don't cling to her, we have a massive circle of friends and family, my sisters have girls similar age and we spend lot's of time together.
The thing that is really getting to me is that she has become really unresponsive to me pointing out that her behaviour, bossyness, rudeness and damn right horribleness is upsetting to me and others and that it effects others, usually she would really try or stop whatever she was doing. eg. if i told her that her behaviuor upset mummy she wouldn't do it any more...now she says "so" or has today said she will swap me if i get upset because she wants to be naughty, today i also told her that her friends at play group wouldn't want to play with her if she carried on and she said "well i'll just play on my own then" this is something she would of never said before, she loves her friends. I am really down with it all, and I feel like i've lost my perfect girl and my friend and i'm starting to crack, today I told her I would take her to the naughty girls home! ( something I would never of said previously!!!)
sorry it's long and i don't know the lingo at all but this is my first entry!!! first of many I feel.
xxx