Worried about DS1's attitude

[oopsadaisyangel]

DS1 (7) has developed a proper little attitude to him. He's already getting notes home from school (two weeks back) regarding him being silly in class and has been banned from going to the toilet outwith break times because he can't be trusted to behave.

His attitude to everyone but his dad is terrible. he's cheeky and disrespectful.

I started a reward chart which was 5 small chores a day at 10p a chore (Mon - Fri) and for good behaviour that day then 50p per day. For a bad behaviour day he gets 50p taken off his weeks money and for a note home from school his whole weeks money is scrapped. He's enjoying the chores and "earning" his money but just doesn't seem to be improving his behaviour. I can never get the full story out of him and he always blames it on other boys he's with.

When he's good he's such a lovely wee boy but when he gets a strop on he's terrible. I really want to nip this behaviour in the bud before he gets older but not sure what I can do to curb it more. I love him to bits but god sometimes he drives me to the end of my tether.

Any ideas ladies?

hi oopsadaisyangel , i think its just a phase , my ds was the same at that age , he is 10.5 now & only in the last few weeks he has stopped being a brat cheeky so & so a reward chart is good but i think what worked for us was to remove ds's psp, ds, wii , PlayStation 3 etc anytime he got a note sent home from school , he got grounded i know it sounds harsh but my ds used to brake his consoles on purpose if he didn't get his own way so we really had to nip his behaviour in the bud . the back chat was very hard to deal with but dh always backed me up & ds soon learned that his attitude was out of order , happily now he actually offers to help with the laundry & keep his little sister amused while i cook dinner ,

I haven't got anything helpful to say I'm afraid except to be consistent, praise the good and ignore the bad as far as you can, but I just wanted to say that your post made me feel nostalgic for when I lived in Scotland - for some reason I could hear a Scottish voice as I read it!