DD is so polite, kind and well mannered I feel she will be walked all over

[Jujubean77]

I know this goes against the grain somewhat but I feel it is valid as a "concern" for me as a parent.

DD is nearly 2.5 and whilst she has her moments, she is around other children, unbelievably considerate. Too much so if that is possible.

Today at a playdate she walked passed the little boy and said "sorry, excuse me". She gives away her toys and will happily let them be grabbed off her and pushed and pulled around without a peep, she just walks back to me confused.

She makes the most polite, grown-up conversation it is almost funny and talks in the most quaint manner. She is affectionate and very gentle and kind especially with babies. It sounds mad but she is like an old soul and very sensible and can't understand what is quite "normal" behavior of this age group like shouting and tantruming and running riot.

Has anyone any experience of this kind of child? I am so worried about bullying. I love her to bits and don't want her idiosyncrasies to change but wish she would toughen up a bit for her own good really. She starts pre-school soon and I am concerned.

My DS is only just 2 but already a lot like you describe. He is an August baby which worries me when I think of him starting school - he will be my tiny shrimpy boy and I worry that he will be bullied/taken advantage of.

He does go to nursery 3 mornings a week and they have never reported any problems - this gives me hope that it will all be OK!

Interested to hear what others have to say.

I'm another one with a DS like this - he's 2.8, and very polite, and gentle, though I wouldn't say his speech is particularly advanced, it's average really and improving all the time.

He struggles a bit with the rough and tumble of the company of most other toddlers, but once he gets to know individuals he's usually fine, though there's a couple he will always steer clear of.

I worry about him at preschool too - he starts in Janualry. Up until now he's gone to a childminder with obviously a much smaller group of kids.

He's very sensitive too, he can get very upset if someone raises their voice to him, even if they don't mean to, IYSWIM.

I'm very encouraged by those of you saying how popular your children like this have become - I hope it becomes true in our case.

His 9 mth old younger brother has a very different character, and I get the feeling we won't have the same worries with him