Why won't he let me sit down?

[judetheobscure]

Ds who is 20 months old has recently come over all clingy . Before Easter he was unwell, nothing major - just fever and tummy bug, followed by teething. Now he's clingy BUT he won't let me cuddle him sitting down. If I'm standing up cuddling him he's quite happy. As soon as I sit down he goes into mega strop mode - hitting, scratching, pulling hair, flinging himself backwards. In the end, I put him down on the floor and walk away. After a minute or two he calms down. Sometimes he'll come back to me for more cuddles but again, as soon as I sit down he strops. I just feel such a mean mother - would be happy to cuddle him all he wants (well nearly) if he'd only let me sit - he's a heavy boy (14kg). I remember my children as babies being like this but not had it at such a late age with the others.

My ds sometimes does this too! It's almost like he wants you take carry him somewhere and when you sit down he realises you're not! Little rascal's are probably just testing the boundaries a bit. I hope!!!

Just don't give in..... maybe he'll just lose interest in battling and realise he wants a cuddle more.

sounds familiar to my ds,almost the same and at the same age,but it just suddenly stopped after about 1 month.The clingyness has also stopped,so just hang in there,their is light at the end of the tunnel.!

My DS (12 months)has always been a bit like this, but this week, following a virus and a fall, he won't let me sit down at all. Makes your arms ache, doesn't it?!
I think being a bit off colour must have something to do with it.

Interesting M2T that he might want me to take him somewhere - perhaps I need to tune in to him a bit more

DS used to do this to me a lot and I could never work it out either. He'd hold his arms up, saying "cuddle you, cuddle you" (meaning "cuddle me", but echoing me saying "Do you want me to cuddle you?"!). Then, when I picked him up he's get the pout on and scream "stand UP mummy".

I've still got no idea why he did it. I wondered at the time whether perhaps it's the sort of automatic swaying that we do when we stand up and cuddle, or whether it was that he liked the feeling of his legs dangling a bit more freely.

Anyway, he grew out of it, and doesn't do it now (at 29mo) - thank god! I can't remember when it stopped though - he was definitely doing it at 20months and was a big boy too.

Yep - my ds (15 months) is the same - in his case it has been since I stopped bf about a month or so ago. I cant carry him around (he 30lb) and I'm pregnant and sick, and so I just don't get up, and he has calmed down a lot about it - I just refuse to be standing up and cuddling as I cant do it for more than a couple of mins. He now climbs into my lap for a cuddle and is perfectly happy with it.

HELP! DD (18 mths) has just started to crave being cuddled standing up and if I try and put her down or sit down myself she screams and has a major tantrum. Last night this went on for an hour as I tried to cuddle her in my lap and she clawed and pushed at me to try and make me stand up. Today we went to the playground and the same thing happened although normally she loves to go on the slides and so on. After 5 minutes of encouraging her, I carried her home. Even then when she got home she STILL wanted to be carried so I put her in her cot where she screamed for 10 minutes more before she went to sleep (at 11am - so she shouldn't have been all that tired). Any suggestions - I don't think I can bear the thought of stand-up carrying for hours at a time!