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"I want to marry you mummy" ...DS aged 3yrs...how best to handle this one?!

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SwissCheese · 13/07/2009 09:23

DS has just embarked on a new theme of marrying me! (bless!!) - however, it's quite persistent and he added on to it about we could then have babies!! He hasn't grasped the concept of what that is all about, but DH does raise eyebrows and look rather perplexed/worried. I'm trying to let it pass by saying oh really? and suggesting he just says I love you mummy rather than reinforce the marrying / babies bit!! I'm rather hoping he won't say it in public

Anyone else had something similar or is it me???!!!

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blinder · 13/07/2009 11:50

maybe your lovely DS is being persistent because you aren't taking it on board? Are you changing the subject or saying he can't marry you or being embarrassed about it?

Just go along with it. He is just saying that you are his very favourite person in the whole world (at the moment )!

ILoveDolly · 13/07/2009 11:57

aaahhh dd says she is going to marry dh and then they will go and live in a castle (?). When it first arose he just pointed out to her that he was already married to me and that when she was a grown up she could marry anyone else she liked. She looked amused and said 'nahh' in a disbelieving voice! and persists in the idea that she will marry him. We just laugh. It's completely harmless.

LyraSilvertongue · 13/07/2009 12:04

I think most little boy say something similar at around that age.
Just ignore it. I'm sure he'll have changed his mind by the time he's old enough to marry

terramum · 13/07/2009 12:11

DS (5) wants to marry me. Bought me some flowers from Tesco the other day (well, made DH buy them!) so I could use them as a bouquet . A lot of it comes from Star Wars episode II I think...he is Anakin & I'm Padme ...but it has morphed a bit...he will quite often look at the wedding picture PIL have on their wall and talk about him growing taller & getting a moustache like Daddy...and then DH grows smaller to be 'our' son .

I do explain that technically we can't get married as he is my son and I am already married to DH...so he then starts talking about marrying his 2 best friends (the girls who live either side of us)...so then I say he can't marry 2 people, that's called bigamy and he gets all huffy and says that's stupid....

I'm just enjoying being adored atm. I'm sure he'll grow out of it fairly soon and start announcing that he hates me as MIL keeps telling me

phdlife · 13/07/2009 12:22

oh, this thread has me rofling. And looking forwards now - I got my very first "love you mummy" this morning!

ilovemydogandmrobama · 13/07/2009 12:32

Just don't do what my (male) cousin did. His DD said she wanted to marry him and he said the usual, 'but I'm married to mummy...' but then added, 'but if I wasn't married to mummy, I'd want to marry you...'

saintmaybe · 13/07/2009 12:49

ds1 then moved on to planning to marry a boy in his class

they were going to wear army camo and have 2 cakes

i was gutted when he moved on from that

Pyrocanthus · 13/07/2009 17:53

Congratulations, phdlife!

piscesmoon · 13/07/2009 18:05

It is very normal, my DSs wanted to marry me and I can remember my brother wanting to marry my mother!
I just said,'that is lovely-but I expect you will change your mind when you are older'. Perhaps this is why DIL have trouble with their MILs!!

piscesmoon · 13/07/2009 18:06

DS1 then wanted to marry a DD in his class and wanted to know if they could have our cat to live with them!

DippyFarquhar · 13/07/2009 18:23

All these children wanting to marry their parents have obviously got it into their heads that marriage is the ultimate display of love. The fools!!!

Actually I think it's lovely and it's nice that marriage is viewed by them as a positive thing and not something that makes people unhappy.

muppetgirl · 13/07/2009 18:28

I said to ds that I was already married to daddy and you can only be married to one person at a time. I said he would find someone lovely when he was older. He still occasionally asks and he's now 5

shhhh · 13/07/2009 21:21

aww how cute...

Dd came home last week from pre school minus hair bobble and clips. Cue me asking "where have your hair bobbles gone darling" to which dd (4) replied "because x (female best friend) and I got married today" . I couldn't take it any further other than to say "oh how nice" .

Hobnobfanatic · 14/07/2009 23:16

DD still hasn't got a hang of the rules. She says that her best friend will be her wife when she's older, and a neighbour's son will be her husband!

The Daily Mail would be outraged, I'm sure...

jemart · 14/07/2009 23:27

All very normal, dd started off wanting to marry her cousin, then her brother. We had a little talk and looked at my wedding photos.
She now can't decide between her two little boyfriends from nursery.
She also talks about how she is going to have babies when she is grown-up. Apparently she will have a little girl and plans to name her Rosie

quimotivemonchocolat · 14/07/2009 23:32

DD came home from nursery a few weeks ago and told me that I was daddy's medal wife because he won me in a competition.

It took me ages to work out that she'd heard another mum bitching about me (my husband is much older) and saying I was a trophy wife.

I was torn between and

Kewcumber · 14/07/2009 23:35

DS has just announced he is going to marry me "cos you are a girl and I am a boy" (he's 3.5yrs). I just said "Aww thats lovely, how nice".

It'll wear off - enjoy it whilst it lasts!

anniemac · 14/07/2009 23:36

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LittleMysMum · 14/07/2009 23:38

Oooh, I'd love to be a trophy wife...think I'm more of a wooden spoon...

quimotivemonchocolat · 14/07/2009 23:40

PMSL at wooden spoon.

Well to my children I am the booby prize

Soapsy · 14/07/2009 23:42

Don't all 3 year olds want to marry their mummy?

Manchesvertes · 14/07/2009 23:44

ds1 said this to me in a very matter-of-fact way at about this age

I pointed out gently that I was already married to Daddy

he scowled and said

"Oh well - I suppose I will have to marry ds2 then"

I don't think he was very traumatised by the rejection

He recently proposed to his best female friend (they're 6) and she said she had already had a better offer would would let him know if it fell through

daisy99divine · 14/07/2009 23:45

My DS is going to marry me. He is 3. When he grows up his job is going to be Being A Mummy

Manchesvertes · 14/07/2009 23:49

I heard ds1 telling ds2 about his marital plans

and ds2 (4) said "no way, I'm not having that - I don't want some bossy lady telling me what to do, I am going to live in a igloo all by myself"

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