She came yesterday to do a developmental check on ds who is 2.5. He has had quite a few ear infections recently so she wanted to see if everything was ok. I said I had no worries about his development but that I was happy for her to do the check.
So she arrived and got out some toy blocks. Ds was playing with some playdough fish I had made him and really did not want to build a tower out of blocks, so I started to build one as a way of encouraging him.
"No mum, it has to be HIS OWN tower"
"Well I know, I was just trying to get him to join in with me.."
"No it has to be all his own work"
I thought she was spectacularly missing my point but shut up from then on as she failed to engage his interest with ANY of the things she had brought with her and then marked him accordingly as not able to do them. He wouldn't brush the dolly's hair (we don't own a hairbrush as ds is still a bit short on the old hair), he wouldn't do a colour matching game despite having known his colours for a year, he wouldn't do the shape buzzle despite knowing all his shapes for over six months etc etc. At one point she said in a worried tone "Oh, he seems to have gone backwards since I last saw him.."
At the end of the test I ventured to suggest that the test was quite a blunt tool, as he DID in fact know all of the things she was testing but wasn't really engaged.
"Ah, but we have to do it the same or it wouldn't be fair.."
She then suggested he needed to go to a group in order to encourage his speech. I refused as I do not think he has ANY problem with his speech. FGS at one point she said "Has he got seven words?.." in a tone of great incredulity. He had said more than that to her in the first thirty seconds she was there.
It was her attitude that really bothered me, she seems determined to find something wrong.
But given the fact that in the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter, why am I so riled? Is it because he is my pfb?