need perspective on this, its sensitive so please advise with this in mind.

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A little girl in my family just turned 6.

several "incidents" of her bieng observed asking other children to take off thier clothes and get into bed with her, whereby she asks them to kiss her.

other things have happened and been said.

These incidents have been observed for the last year or so.(obviously, there was intervention, gently distracting them from this behviour and not making a fuss)

I think (hope that you are all going to say) that it may be a phase, part of childhood curiosity etc.

Other memebers of the family are suggesting that she knows far far too much and that she may have seen or heard things that she should not have done.

Her mother is very embarrased and anxious for the child, does not know what to think.

I have little/no expereince of girls of this age so do not have a clue.

ahh she tells me that she is my chickydee
we do have a lovely relationship and i dont think that i have ever had to even raise my voice to her (not that i would of course)
In fact i babysat for her the other night and was told that she will be nothing but trouble she will not go to bed will not do as she is told, doesnt fall asleep till after 10pm most nights.
She went to bed at 7.20, popped back down to give me another cuddle and kiss goodnight, bu 8pm she was snuggled up fast asleep.

I may speak with her over the next week or two, i will speak to her mum 1st though about it, check its ok with her.

with regards to the pole dancing, my youngest 2 "pole dance" around the rotarty washing line with all sort of interesting moves and they've never ever witnessed any pole dancing. They just love dancing generally and swirling around it and I think some of the moves just kind of lend themselves to the appartus IYSWIM.

Does she hear you being told by her mum (or whoever) that she'll be a nightmare? If that's what she hears what people are talking about her at home, she'll live up to expectations! Good luck - I really wish you well. Good idea to check with her mum, tho I reckon shed be tahnkful for your love and support of what sounds like a rather confused little girl. Keep us posted. . .

um yes, unfortunately they say some very negative things to and about her when she can hear it.

that explains the behaviour side of things.

Its this thing with other children and the suggestive behaviour, thats the unexplained bit.

I really do just think she is needing lots of love.

Perhaps she has at some time seen something a film or something that has shown adults in bed cuddling and she thinks thats how she will get more cuddles??

I dont think its abusive imo.

Im glad you have a lovely relationship with her.

I don't think the teacher's comment was unhelpful. It is clear to me the teacher has concerns and has voiced them to try to help.

i think you need specialised professional help.

Does the child see her father?