7 year old boy! Occasional violent temper tantrum

[Budgie1]

My seven year old has the odd very violent temper tantrum were he shouts, punches and hits! Very distressing for all. Can go a few months without having one then has a couple within a few weeks of each other. Kept a food diary and cannot come up with any links. Seen a child pyscologist they thought he was okay, big boy for his age and that was why they seemed extreeme. Just put down to a behaviour issue. Any ideas

It is very common at this age,hes had a growth spurt moved up or is moving up to the 'junior' side of primary school and its hard for kids they dont quite know 'where' they are emotionally,he might be a big boy but he will be developing his views on things and very real worries can affect him.

Having had 3 sons myself all I can suggest is chatting when hes quite calm about how upsetting you find these outbursts and give him chance to tell you things even trivial things.

Take time to praise and encourage and hug him a little more and perhaps a tad more responsibility in the home (my 8 yrold has the bunny brekkie chore).

Very normal though......and it only gets worse .

A little extra sleep usually helps a bit too.....for him not you lol

That could probably be a factor, has had a couple of late nights with nice weather, bit out of routine. At cubs just now, should not have gone but thought it best for both of us if we had a break!First time i have been on this website, just came across it when looking for some advice! Thanks

welcome in - it is addictive tho before you know it you will be here every day .

I'm having the same issue as above... his temper is the most extreme amongst my 4 kids and at times it gets to the point where I'm asking myself if it's a parenting issue.

He eats a very healthy diet... no artificial foods.. I cook from scratch each day. He gets plenty of sleep... typically 10-11 hrs per night. 99% of the time he's a wonderful little boy.. but 4 or 5 times a year he has an absolute fit and refuses to do anything asked of him (so timeouts are absolutely impossible).

We're following the suggestion of talking with him when he's calm, but I'd really appreciate some advice as to what to do DURING the fit.

Please help?