2 year old, being very naughty since new brother arrived

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how do I deal with her behaviour?

She has started hitting me when I am feeding new ds 3 weeks, I had been puting her in the hall for 2 mins. Now she just hits me and says "Oh put me in the hall then"
I am really stuggling with how to discipline her. She completely ignores me when I have asked her not to hit/poke/climb in pram with her brother. The time out is obviously not working.

Any tips would be appreciated.

Yep, I'm in the same boat. My DS is 2.5 and DS2 is 4 weeks, and the elder one is doing exactly the same.

I'm keeping on with the time out thing, and in the last few days we are seeing some improvement. I count to 3, having told him what I want him to do. If he doesn't do it he goes on the stairs for 2 minutes.

I've also tried to have some 1 on 1 time with him. He is really struggling with the addition of his little brother and although he is also quite sweet with him at times, I have found myself becoming quite upset that all I seem to do is shout at him.

Do you get your DD to help with DS? This has worked quite well for us. I am also trying to resist the temptation to sit there feeding and cuddling DS all day, and instead think of activities to keep DS1 amused. That has made a real difference and DS2 won't miss me just yet!

People keep telling me it will get better!

Why don't you come and join us on the May post-natal thread?

I have almost the same age gap between mine. When I had dd she was in the playpen for nearly 3 months so ds wouldn't pester or squash her, she was too little to be bothered by it and i never had to tell ds off for bashing her. I gradually introduced her to the playmat around 3 months and watched them like a hawk but but by then i think ds was not interested in her ( in a nice way) and never bothered her. DD is 8 months now and they get on really really well.

Me too. DD 2.6yo and DS 19wks.

I have found that having lots of time dedicated to the eldest has helped. Every time the baby goes for a sleep or is content just lying around, I concentrate on her for a change.

I have also got her to help a lot - she enjoys feeding when he has EBM in a bottle, and copies me with her dolly when I bf. Also, I ask her to get me things when I'm nappy changing. She particularly enjoys seeing what colour the babies poo is

The time out clearly isn't working - probably makes her feel even more usurped by the baby. Tbh, I don't think there's any such thing as naughtiness in a 2yo.

Same happened with mine. There is an exactly 2 year gap. I was in hospital 5 days and it was really the first time I'd spent away from dd1 and she wouldn't look at me for a couple of days after I got back. She was much, much naughtier and colder with me. But then she got much clingier and sweeter, after a couple of months. Now she still behaves quite badly when she thinks she's missing out on something, and she doesn't like dd2, but she's not horrible to her, doesn't bother her, just has nothing to do with her, apart from anxiety that dd2 might take her stuff. It definitely gets better.

I ended up having to express in the daytime and only bf at night because dd1 was so jealous - I think because feeding is so intimate, she felt very excluded. She would pull dd2's head away from me and tell me to put her down. I didn't want to be forever losing my patience with DD1 and making her feel even worse, when efectively her whole world had changed overnight, so this was the solution which worked for us. HOpe it gets better for you soon.