someone talk to me now i've just lost it please help.

[colnelcustard]

I have just lost it with my dd (3) she's been having huge tantrums all day she hits herself in the face when she's doing it.

She has just had about her twentieth today and i've picked her up and basically thrown her into her room. I have smacked her on the bottom and told her to come out when she can behave. the older one ds (6) has gone in there to wind her up just a bit more and i've shoved him in his room

i just can't bloody cope. i feel like i hate them. why can't we just have a nice day with each other we're trying to do bloody arts and crafts and it turns into world war III.

can someone calm me down please. i'm shaking with anger. i feel like i could do a lot worse than smacking her bottom. she makes me so angry.

Go and get a drink.

Leave them in their rooms while you drink it.

Call them out, have a talk about being kind to each other and make it clear what behaviour is unacceptable and what the consequences will be. Move on from the smack. It is done and maybe as a one off it will achieve something.

It's hard I know. Leave them in their rooms for a bit and have a cup of tea. Give up on the arts and crafts for today.

When I have days like these (my three children are 5, 3 and 8 months, and experts at tantrums), then I ignore the children and do the housework. Vacuum cleaning has these benefits:
1;it drowns out the sound of the tantrums
2;physical activity helps me get rid of my anger and wind down
3;it cleans the floor.

Arts and crafts!

Why not trying baking 'Nigella's Rainy Day biscuits' to ensure a complete nervous breakdown.

Face it. There are times when only a High School Musical video for the girl, an age inappropriate computer game for the boy, and a G and T for you will do.

I have also had many days like these! try and stay calm go and sit outside in some fresh air with no children and take 5 minutes. definatley give up on the arts and craft for today. us mums cant be superwoman every day of the week! make sure they know that what they've been doing is wrong and exlplain why. tomorrow is another day - and hopefully a better one!!! chin up

absolutely maria

i say arts and crafts i mean sodding sticking boxes together and putting a bit of glue on stuff.

i just can't bear the holidays. I really can't.

i actually look forward to going to work this evening and being shouted at b the general public because anything is better than this.

DD1 - just coming up on 3 - also has days like this. DD2 who is 13mths has now started to join in when her sister gets going - she bangs her head on the floor when she cries and makes things worse too!

When they are both into their crying stride, I go into the kitchen and busy myself with some chore or other. Another vote for vacuuming too! If I don't exit the situation, I too can feel my blood pressure going up.

do you drive?I'd take them both out in the car when they are like this
maybe wear rainy day gear and go somewhere to splash in muddy puddles
or take them swimming, burn some energy off them