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What happened to my ds last night?

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juicychops · 19/05/2009 08:58

my ds (4) threw a chair on the floor and i asked him to pick it up. i tried to make a joke of it and he was laughing and eventually he picked it up. then he got moody again and started banging the chair for no reason i told him to stop (i was gettin the hump by now but not shouting or anythin) he carried on banging it so i put him in his room

he trashed his room throwing everythin on the floor. i warned him that anythin he throws i will put in a bin bag which i did. (he has done this before- not as much trashing though, and i have put it in bin bag before which by this point he usually calms down)

he then just flipped and started throwing big heavy things at me, hitting me with the legs of his work bench, he was in a proper rage. i started crying as he had never been like this before. i tried holding him to restrain him but he bit me on the arm, i tried holding him against me in a cuddle to calm him down but he wouldn't calm down. i then had no choice but to leave him to it he was just throwing himself all over the floor making angry noises.

it was quite terrifying to watch. this whole thing lasted about half hour. he then calmed down on my lap and we cuddled and he appologised.

i tried talking to him and asking him what had made him angry but he didn't know.

he had another tantrum on saturday. but before this he had been perfect for months. nothing in his home life has changed as far as i know and i dont know what to do or how to handle this

i have 2 bin bags full of toys in my room which he wont get back just yet. he woke up just a perfect child again. i told him that tonight we will have a little talk about last night and talk about what things make him annoyed and angry

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Tortington · 19/05/2009 09:00

seen someone else do it - and wow he has power - all that emotional manipulation

juicychops · 19/05/2009 10:07

FIRELIGHTER that sounds just like ds yesterday. it was very frightening and he too had the look of rage on his face. normally if im uselt ds then will get upset but his face was like he didn't give a shit

justcallmedog - he doesn't seem to be coming down with anything that i can tell. he's had chicken pox already so it cant be that. il keep an eye out for signs

legacy - he was at nursery all day yesterday so he couldn't of eaten anythin bad for him as they are good with what food they give the kids there. from today im gunna cut out all sweets though. he doesn't have fizzy drinks or squash so cant be them. ive put him on a strict diet before of purely homemade food and no crap etc so may return to that as it had amazing results - however he was only 2 then!! but his behaviour was pretty awful at the time

i forgot to mention his cousin (2) was round on both of these occasions so dont know if it was partly an attention thing

im just dreading him doing it again! im gunna be on egg shells now trying not to set him off!

im glad im not the only one going through this. gunna read up on hormone surges now...

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JustcallmeDog · 19/05/2009 10:35

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3littlefrogs · 19/05/2009 10:38

He's tired? Having a growth spurt therefore needs an earlier bed time?

smugmumofboys · 19/05/2009 10:40

DS1 (6) went through that just before he started school. He'd always been a tantrum thrower extraordinaire but these were quite something - hitting, scratching, biting and spitting etc. I also had to hold him tight to restrain him.

I've no real idea what caused it - I've read that boys have a testosterone burst at around 4. That would make sense as he couldn't really remember what had happened.

They did stop after a few weeks.

HTH

PS You're handling it much better than I did. Well done.

Legacy · 19/05/2009 10:41

Did he have anything different to eat or drink yesterday?

My DS1 once had a 'fit' like this, and it was after he'd been to the cinema with DH and had had jelly sweets and Fanta.
I'm convinced he has a reaction to some food colourings.

firelighter · 19/05/2009 10:48

Hi Juicychops. I too have a four year old son who on Friday had a tantrum which sounds exactly like your son's. I say tantrum, but it was somehow different to his usual kick-offs. It was almost like he was posessed, if you know what I mean, he just completely lost it and started pulling my hair and hitting me, something he's never done before. He had a look of rage and hate on his face that really frightened me. It felt hormonal maybe? He just seemed SO angry and so aggressive, and this just came out of the blue and lasted about half an hour. I keep reading about testosterone surges at this age, but then others say that this is a complete myth. Am confused, but it's nice to know that I'm not the only one...

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