18 mth old refusing to drink milk - is it a problem? Other q's need answers too

[custard1]

My 18 mth old has just started refusing her milk at bedtime. She has only had milk at bedtime since she was about 9 months as she would not drink it out of anything but a bottle so we stopped it as she ate well throughout the day. She has always eaten cheese, yogurt and had milk on cereals so hv did not think it mattered.

She has now begun refusing milk at bedtime and has begun pushing any breakfast cereal away when she can see milk in the bowl. I think she is telling me that she does not like milk!

Is this a problem. She has recently also gone from being a really good eater to taking 3 mouthfuls of all savoury food and then pushing the plate away. So, don't know best action to take with this either? Should I still offer dessert if she is refusing savoury.

Sorry a few questions. Any advice would be helpful please.

My DD is 16 months, and has not drunk milk since I stopped BF at 1 year, the advice from HV is that if she has plenty of yoghurt, cheese etc she will be fine. Interestingly, in calcium terms, 1 oz of cheese = 3 oz of milk, so it doesnt take that much. She loves these and she feeds them to herself. But basically its not a problem, some people just dont like milk.
On the food front, dont have a battle, she wont starve herself. I would give pudding but only yoghurt and fruit. Does she feed herself?

My ds also refused to drink any cows milk when I stopped bf him at 12 months. He did however eat lots of cheese and yoghurts. The HV said this was fine.

On his second birthday, my ds suddenly decided that milk was the bees knees and now it is his drink of choice. I can't remember what made him give it a go. Maybe it was just watching his big sister.

Like your dd, my dcs have also gone through stages of being incredibly fussy about what they eat. I have tended to try not to get too worked up about it. They only get fruit or yoghurt for pudding anyway, so I tend to give them this even if they have not eaten their savoury food. My rationale is that there is little point going to war over food as I will potentially be going into the battlefield three times every day. I need to pick my battles carefully in the inevitable warzone that is toddlerworld.

My ds1 was only on a bottle of milk at bedtime from 9 months. At about 16 months he stopped it at bedtime, so now h has a yoghurt instead. I feel it's light enough to go to bed on, and enough to fill any little void in is belly.
He has a cup of milk in the morning now, but I have to put a spoon of nesquick in it, or he won't drink it.
With the breakfast thing. I pour milk over the cereal and leave it for a few mins, then drain the milk away so he eats it moist, but can't see the milk iyswim.