My nearly 3 year old son is a spririted child who seems to have developed a policy of non co operation towards my dh and me, he is very bright and very capable and has so much energy we are permanently exhausted. I am concerned that it may be an attachment issue as I went back to work 8 months after having him and he coped poorly at the childminders with the separation. We moved house 18 months ago ( when he was about 16 months old and I became a full time mother. We have a dd who is 4 years older that him and had to move her school too about 6 months after we moved house. We are still in rented at the moment and I had the huge job of unpacking boxes for about 6 months after the move. Ds loves playgroup and seems to love every other persons mum more than me. I am very sad, but determined not to give up. I try and show him love and play with him and cuddle him, but that his bad behaviour will not be tolerated but he seems to be badly behaved most of the time. we are trying to ignore it where we can, but he seems to choose things to do that we really should not ignore like doing potentially dangerous things. I think I need to have him seen by a child pyschologist - what do other mumsnetters think? Any advice gratefully received.