aggressive 3 year old

[wobblymummy]

Help! my 3 year old son has become really aggressive, smacking, kicking and scratching also verbally [not swearing thank goodness!] i dont understand why because his dad and i are not aggressive people and are always loving and firm with him, rarely give in to demands common in toddlers. he even behaves like it at preschool, who suggested seeing a sen. i am going to cause im at my wits end! i just dont know what to do to help him through this and i hope its only a phase, im even considering taking him out of preschool, thinking that maybe he cant cope with all the choice and so much going on around him. i may have already said most of this i a previous post but im desperatly worried about him, and looking for any pearls of wisdom you mums may have.

have you tried the naughty step
wen he misbeahavses just sit him on it, go down to his level and say 'I have put you on the naughty step because you hit mummy'
then a minute later ask him 2 say sorry and have hugs and kisses

yup yup yup! it generally works at home, hes always sorry and i can now get him to say why hes sorry, and he really is sorry, the main problem is at preschool, i dont know what to do to get him to behave there, he is an only child and doesnt have to share his toys at home so at preschool he has to learn to but, it seems, at the expense of the other kids! its one thing to share with mummy and daddy, quite another with a child your own age!!

i have a nearly 3 ds2 like this too at the moment, im hoping it a phase, he will run at us and hit us, blow rasberrys at us. and when he wants us to do something he will heavily accent ok at us at the end of his request as if thats going to make us do it,
we do sit him down for 2 mins but doesnt seem to work, he is worse when he hasnt had his nap though!
no advice still trying to find what works on him!

presch should be equipped to deal with it tbh

Hi - just here to offer support - sounds like you are doing what you can - may be a phase - if preschool are suggesting some kind of outside assessment (not sure what an sen is ? , then take what help is offered. I would not take him out of preschool - for one thing you need the respite , for another they will help you access support.

At my DD preschool last year there was an aggressive boy , who was finally assessed as having some kind of need (not sure exactly what ) but he was to get funding for some support /play worker to come in - in the end he moved to a smaller nursery because it was felt he would cope better there- the funding for the support went with him,

I don't know the upshot of his story but I think many of these behavioural problems will resolve better with support.

Good luck - he is lucky to have a mum who cares so much

x

Thanks wrongsideof40 sen special educational needs i think. i hope they dont label him! maybe a smaller preschool is the answer, or would help, we live in a small village so there must be one around. maybe a more structure environmet like montessori? not sure, just thinking out loud! his behaviour is worse when hes tired as he still naps in the day for up to two hours, and goes to bed well(ish!) of a night time so maybe he just cant cope at the mo cause hes too young for preschool? i wish i could see inside his little brain, maybe spend a day or two there to fathom him out! if only!