preschool behaviour bad!!!

[wobblymummy]

i have a three year old son and am a bit worried/stressed out! his preschool have called me in to talk about his behaviour, he wont share toys and lashes out at the other kids when he wants something or if they want what hes got and try to take it. he wont sit down at circle time. a sen happened to unofficially observe him [was watching another] and suggested i call her [which ive done] and she will observe him in june to offer suggestions, im more worried about the fact that other kids seem to be wary of him cause they worry that he will lash out at them so he seems to push them away. hes an only child as i cant have more kids following a hysterectomy. I dont understand, we arent a loud aggressive family, he gets lots of love and hugs and kisses etc etc. maybe some of you could offer help??

Wobbly, first of all, don't panic. It's really good that the nursery/SEN people are taking notice. As long as their attitude is supportive rather than accusatory, you have nothing to worry about.

Lots of 3 yr olds (and older) go through phases like this. Most of them don't have any special needs. Some do. If your DS is one of them, it is so much better for you both that it is picked up early.

Either way, it's not 'your fault'. Keep clam, talk to the SEN woman and make a plan with the nursery to tackle the behaviour. But don't think you are alone, or that there is anything 'wrong' with your boy.

thanks, i must admit although they were very kind and supportive i cried! felt like a right wally! its just hard to be told that he may need observing, it may just be that he needs a sibling but as my post says........ my hubby and i are going to childmind soon so maybe that will help a bit? hope so, in the meantime im looking forward to any advise that maybe out there