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should a 4 yr old be watching spiderman/batman dvd's

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pastasauce · 07/05/2009 20:24

Am trying not to be cross with my sons dad because he watches 12 rated films ie spiderman etc with my son when he goes to stay with him....... I know it is a boy thing and I can tell he really loves them because he comes back naming every character and (unfortunately) acting out the story....... Would it make you just a little bit cross or am I just being a total prude and maybe a little jealous that he thought of it first???? If you see what I mean....

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louii · 07/05/2009 20:26

They are 12 rated, your child is 4 so of course you should be cross, they are a 12 for a reason.

thisisyesterday · 07/05/2009 20:28

no, i would be cross. I don't think it's appropriate viewing for a 4 yr old, can't stand things like power rangers either which many of ds1's nursery friends seem to be into.

def wouldn't like the acting out stuff

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pastasauce · 07/05/2009 20:30

louii.... that is kind of what I thought but when i mentioned it at work a couple of the girls thought i was over reacting...... dont want his dad to think I am moaning for the sake of moaning (think I have been just a little bit guilty of doing that in the past so am trying to mend my ways!!)

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gladbag · 07/05/2009 20:31

My ds is 5 now, but was Spiderman and Batman obsessed at 4. We certainly haven't let him watch any of the films, simply because with a rating of 12 they are not appropriate for him (language, violence etc). He did see a few bits of Spiderman (just him swinging through the New York sky scrapers) and he's seen loads of clips of old cartoon Batman and Spiderman on YouTube. That kept him happy. But he won't be watching the films for a good few years (so I'm an old prude too ). I'd talk to your ex about the general issue now, if it's one that bothers you, as it can only get worse as times goes by.

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pastasauce · 07/05/2009 20:32

nope i dont even do the power ranger stuff yet either....... I am still thinking along the lines of thomas and peppa..... all lovely and fluffy!

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Heated · 07/05/2009 20:39

I don't have so much of a problem with the classic cartoons of yore but the films are too old imo for a 4yr old.

In fact dh took a clip from Spiderman - a bit where a multi-armed villain destroyed a laboratory and killed scientists with power tools - and played it to secondary school students who thought, given the violence, it should be 15 rated (it would have been if there had been blood apparently).

francagoestohollywood · 07/05/2009 20:40

I think that Spiderman and Batman are totally inappropriate for that age, and I'd be really upset.

I wouldn't be worry about him acting out the story though, as it is often a way for them to really understand what they saw.

francagoestohollywood · 07/05/2009 20:41

the classic cartoons, I'm more okey with them.

SamJamsmum · 07/05/2009 20:44

Clips on youtube and old cartoons here only for a nearly 5 yr old. Would NOT let him watch the more recent movies. No WAY.

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pastasauce · 07/05/2009 21:27

thanks for that,including reality for a different perspective! Think I will try to have a carefully worded discussion with his dad about how appropriate it is, I know he is going to be doing different stuff (boys stuff) when he is with his dad and he needs that sort of input but I still don't like the sort of films they are watching together and like gladbag said it might well get worse with time so erm.. time to put my calm and tactful head on, will have a word tomorrow.

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searchingforananswer · 07/05/2009 22:02

To throw the cat amonst the pigeons is there really any harm in it? My mother was very strict with us when we were growing up but TV was something which was never closely monitored - probably due to her lack of exposure to it herself growing up in a rural town in Ireland in the 50's. On the TV front, if not any other, we got away with murder. As the old mantra goes it didn't do any of us any harm so why do we get so het up about this suff nowadays?

Would it be fair to assume that as she ruled with an iron rod and was so damn strict we knew our bondaries? TV was fantasy but having such a strong sense of right and wrong we did not grow up influenced by what we watched but paid more heed to what we were taught?

muppetgirl · 07/05/2009 22:07

we keep to the guidlines. ds is 5 and can only watch films in his age range. He's watched starwars but not 3 (IF THAT'S THE BAD ONE!)

we notice his behaviour and attitude slip dramatically when he watches things like Ben and Power rangers but let him watch it occasionally so he can play the associated games with his mates at school.

Some of his friends have watched 12 films but that doesn't change mine and dh's minds.

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