how can i stop my 9 yr old being cheeky and always having the last word

[momof2boys]

he has just got into trouble at schol for rolling his eyes and tutting at his teacher today, he is always doing this at home, and he always thinks he is right!!!!! please help as i am at a complete loss

Toffee sticky enough to glue jaw together and dark glasses might solve this, otherwise you're on a loser love, nine year old boy seems to be the new adolescent girl it would seem (from mine anyhow)

oh great!!! and there i thought just give him a dose of mustard everytime he was rude or cheeky.

I have a dd like this so if someone has the answer I'd love to hear it!

its not just the thing he says but the way he says them in a really sarcastic tone!!! but how do you tell a child the difference???????? i was thinking of recording him when he talks but i amnever quick enugh to grab the mobile

Great advice I was given is to not compete; if he has to have the last word don't respond. You are not 9. My SIL told me 'you just have the last sensible word. If you don't play that game it doesn't last.

Good advice saintmaybe

Another thing i have done occasionally (not when you are in the middle of an incident), is to "act out" with your DH the way DS speaks to you. I have done this at the dinner table, for example, with DH acting the part- not saying please or thankyou, being rude, eye rolling etc.

If you do it in quite a lighthearted way, it can be funny, and get the message through that this is not the way we talk to each other, without having to give a lecture (I'm inclined to lecture sometimes )

Of course, this won't work if your DH is normally rude to you

I also have 2 boys momof2boys

Saintmaybe

What great advice. I'll be taking that away and putting it into place.

For months, now, I've been having bickering, sometimes blistering, rows with my 8 yo dd who always has to be right. I suspected that I was being a little childish responding all the time, but it hit me yesterday...I'm actually encouraging this sometimes. And I want to 'win' almost as much as she does

Time to grow up and grow a pair. It might help us to fix our relationship a bit as she's starting to say 'You don't love me anymore' and it's driving me nuts. Especially as she's a PFB/Only Child and I tend to bend over backwards to accommodate her 9 times out of 10.

I don't envy you this one momof2boys, but I wish you luck with it.

I am watching this with interest - DH (yep) is exactly like this and it drives me crazy.

Biscuitstuffer:

Then, following the logic of my previous post, maybe you and one of your DCs could re-enact one of your arguments with DH, to show him the error of his ways

It is an excellent idea. Unfortunately the eldest is 2 and while she would find it roaringly funny, it would encourage her to start doing it on a more regular basis!

Biscuit stuffer . Shame .....

On a slightly related topic:

I remember in the midst of a terrible tantrum from DS1, lying down on the floor and copying him (if I'm honest, it was done as much in frustration as it was planned).

It felt surprisingly good, and stopped the tantrum straight away. DS sort of had this look on his face :