10.5 month old not sleeping through - help!!

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Hello, my 10.5 DD is stil not sleeping through and its really starting to get me down. She goes down at 7.30ish and have established good routine there and even though sometimes cries out she usually is usually asleep within about 15 minutes and normally sleep very soundly until about 2am when she wakes up screaming and then cries until I pick her up and put her in my bed with me and then usually sleeps until about 6am. I think the solution is to let her 'cry out' but I am in a 1 bedroom flat and her cot is literally next to where I sleep and also I am back at work 2 days a week and last week she cried for nearly 2 hours and then I have to get up at 6am. We are moving into a bigger place soon and I think I am probably just after some reassurance that it will get better! Feel like I am the only one who still has baby not sleeping through!

You're not the only one. Ime lots of parents try to be competitive over who is sleeping through and won't tell you the whole story. My ds has just turned 11 mo and is still not sleeping through. He was up 4 times last night. It is soul destroying, I am just dragging myself round all day because I am so tired. It will get better at some point I suppose. Dd slept through much earlier, so I know it's nothing I am doing wrong as such, it's just the was ds is. My HV told me to do controlled crying but I couldn't do it. Not least because of the neighbours Have you tried putting her in bed with you? Ds is still bf and on the nights where I am too tired to sit up and feed him I just bring him in with me and he just feeds until he's asleep. I get much more rest that way

just to let you know that you are not the only one and my DS is 11 months next week. No solution yet though and I'm due back at work soon too. Most of the time DS just wants milk and goes back to sleep immediately but I still long for uninterrupted sleep. Just when I think I need to try some sleep training he surprises me and goes for 5-6 hrs between night feeds e.g. 10pm and 3am which is manageable although not ideal.

you are not the only one at all
gecko is 2.3 years

she has never slept through

she wakes ever 3 ish hours

Not everyone kids are sleeping through....

IME it is unusual for a baby to go from 7pm-7am without a feed at this age. (Well the experience of my two kids anyway!)

My DD and Ds needed a night feed up until about a year. In my DS case it was more like 13 months.

I found that as my children began to eat more normal, adult food, which happens around the year mark or so they began to drop milk feeds and then slept better.

I would also say ignore what other people tell you their babies are doing at a similar age as some parents seem to think that it is the pinnacle of success to say their children sleep through! Regardless of whether their kids need the night feed or not! Also what do people mean by sleep through (7-7/10-4/11-5???)

You will get your sleep back.......

my dd is exactly 11 months old and out of the blue this week she has just started sleeping through. The previous month she's been worse than every waking 2 or 3 times a night for a feed. My coping strategy is not to even think about it. If you wonder when it'll ever end it gets you down. I've just taken each night as it comes and big surprise she's statred sleeping

In your position, if you're about to move, I gues it doesn't make sense doing anything till you've moved, but once you do move, start as you mean to go on. Getting her into bed with you is really making a rod for your own back. I'd carry on with it tho if you're just about to move,. In new place will she get her own room? Then I'd stop bringing her in with you at that point. Hopefull having her own room and all the changes might well break the cycle.

good luck, and with the house move, sleeping and reutn to work - lots of changes for all of you. Unsettling in itself.

I agree, wait until you move. When you move have her in the same room as you for a week, but no coming into bed with you when she wakes up..sounds awful, but they develop habits within a few days, and this has become more habit than anything else. I went through this with my son at 18months, and fell into the same pattern. I followed some tough advice and it worked. I or hubbie would go in when he cried, but would NOT pick him up, we would lean in and cuddle and soothe, but never took him out of the cot. then we would lay him down, make sure he was calm, and leave the room, if he cried we would wait 1 min before going in, this time, with no eye contact, just 'sshhh' and reassure him it was ok. then we would leave and if he cried wait 2 mins etc and repeat the process...the longest we would stay out was 7 mins... the first night was sheer hell! The second night better but still wrenching.. the third night.... well we all slept in and where late for work! Since then the occasional nightmare, and toilet trips, but it really did the trick. It was very hard, but in the end it was the best thing for him- don't give in though, as you will just teach her to cry for longer..p.s. the no talking or eye contact worked when he moved into the big boy bed and used to sneak out to play .

DS didn't start sleeping through until about 2.

it depending on how you feel dealing with it. if you're happy to bring her into bed with you then do it, if you would rather her sleep in her cot then pick a succession of night where you can persist, no that you get have kip teh next day and get yourself ready for some awful nights. if you decide the latter though don't give in: it'll only be harder next time you try.

i would probably wait until after you've settled in after the move to tackle it as moving itself will probably unsettle her abit.

Thanks for all advice comments; actually really helps to know I am not the only one having sleepless nights at this stage!

my 18 month old only started sleeping through a couple of weeks ago. I did preciely nothing, he just started of his own accord.
So you certainly aren't hte only one. quite frankly it's easier to just re-settle them than to have the hassle of sleep training IMO.

Does bringing her into your bed really disturb you? I'd love it if DS came in with us after his feed but the little darling kicks and wriggles if he's between us. If you all sleep well, what's the problem?

My DS is 15mo and has never quite slept through (been through till 5ish for a feed a few times then back through till 7ish, which is good enough for me!).

We tried sleep training (DH settling him instead of me giving milk) to get him down to the one feed he normally has between 3 and 5 - and it did work, but every time he was ill we had to do it again. We gave up and just fed him and he just one day decided to sleep better, going to one feed on his own - unless he's really ill. 10.5mo is still quite little (IMO) to be going through unless they decide to do it themselves.

Having done CIO with my DS at 6mo (waking every hour or so through the night), I wish I hadn't now. I don't think it harmed him but with hindsight I think I could have done it more gently if I'd started before DH and I were both exhausted. However, we tried leaving DS to cry once when he was older (around 10mo IIRC) and he really really knew what was going on (for a week afterwards he fell asleep clutching DH's dressing gown so hard he couldn't put DS down as his little fists were clenched so tight!). We've got much better settling techniques now, and all settling is done with the involvement of one of us. He'll now go to sleep with just a cuddle from me or with DH sitting on the bed with him, so there have been no rods for backs here