need advice on how to deal with 4 yr old soiling himself...

[iloverolos]

ds1 has been wetting/soiling himself regularly for a couple of weeks now, am quite sure it is attention seeking as new baby in the house[dd4wks]also have ds2,2yrs.Am at the end of my patience here, any advice please

I would say whatever else happens stay calm and don't make a fuss when it happens. That'll be the worse thing you can do.

Perhaps try to make sure that you have 1 to 1 time with DS for a little time each day. Set it aside and make sure it is his time doing something and then try to get him more involved with DD as well. It's tough but whatever happens stay calm and he'll stop doing it. I hope for your sake. hug

Thanks for the advice [and the hug] paranoidmother I have been doing what you suggested tho' i admit i had a complete sense of humour failure when it happened again today,thing is, he is so demanding of my time and attention i'm concerned that i'm just pandering to his bad behaviour and maybe even perpetuating it if i don't change strategy

my middle daughter started doing exactly the same thing when my youngest was born, i have no advice really, i didnt know what to do, it was a nightmare i tried to stay calm but theres only so much poo you can handle, and she knew what she was doing and thought it was funny to have me clean it up!!!

it was a real struggle but i had to force my self to stay calm otherwise i would have just been angry with her all the time, for some on known reason she just suddenly stopped one day, never to do it again, but now that youngest daughter has started walking and being more active, middle daughter has started wetting herself........... ahhhhhhh!

thankfully the teachers at her nursery are fab and are really helping me, they give her stickers if she stays dry for the whole session, and i have a sticker chart for her at home for when shes goes on the toilet.

i also find it helps to give her, her own bit of special time with me, easier said then done as i have 3 girlies under 6 all demanding attention!

ahh good luck i feel for you![[[hug]]
xxxxx