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Worried about my 8yr old sister....... (long!)

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npg1 · 05/05/2009 21:09

Hi everyone. This will probably be fairly long so please bear with me!

My mum and dad split when I was about 9yrs old. Dont really remember much about it but years later mum met my step dad. When I was about 13 (basically secondary school years) my mum and step dad were very violent towards each other, they would go to the pub and drink loads and come home and have massive fights.

Anyway I now have an 8yr old sister and a 7 year old sister, 18 months between them. Mum struggled quite alot when sis2 was born and had PND. I think sis1 was pushed out an awful lot. Even now I can see sis2 is favoured more and 'babyfied' alot. She cries and they all come running! Sis1 is very grumpy, has massive tantrums and takes over an hour to come out of them. Sis2 also has tantrums and I feel like everyone panders to her and gives her what she wants to keep her quiet. Also the attitude towards sis2 from her is really bad and she will often say 'i hate you .....'

Mum says she thinks she needs councelling but then doesnt phone the woman, I keep saying just phone her but they dont. I really think they need to do something about this. I think they still argue alot in front of the girls which worries me as I know it's affected me.

I have a better bond with sis1 because I was still living at home when she was born but then moved to LA when mum fell preg when sis2 so wasnt around when she was little. I also just feel really sad for sis1.

Dont know if anyone can help me at all and there are probably loads of things I have left out!

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Flyonthewindscreen · 05/05/2009 21:26

tbh I'm not not sure that you can get too involved with how your mum and stepdad are bringing up your sisters but I'm sure that you being around to give your sister love and attention must be a real help for her. Are you able to maybe take her out on her own sometimes to get her way from her home environment and the favouritism situation with her younger sister?

npg1 · 05/05/2009 21:42

I agree I cant really interfere. I would like to take her out on my own etc but not sure if that then seems unfair to sis2 and then mum will say if I do it for one i do it for the other IYSWIM.

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Flyonthewindscreen · 05/05/2009 21:56

Maybe plan an outing that is "too old" for sis 2? Or take both but treat them equally?

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