so, ds1 who is 3 in june has always been a great sleeper. sleeping through from 8 weeks, napped right on time, went to bed fine, slept from 7-7. My probs started last september when he refused to take a nap. He also started pre school that sep. Id take him out in the car at lunch time and he would fall asleep so the only days he wouldnt have a nap were when he was at preschool. ds2 was then born toward end of november and he was ok... last month or so have been having awful time getting him to sleep. He will go up fine, i bath ds2 first try to get him to sleep before then getting ds1 in bath to try to let him have just me. Then bedtime same routine, bath, storys, sleep. Its now hit a peak. Last night he was still up screaming and shouting for me. In the end i ignored him and eventually went to sleep but woke up at 1am screaming and couldnt see why. Today i made sure he napped in the car for an hour. He was in bed for 7pm, started messing about when i tried to read to him but i carried on. At first he was ok but then kept calling me so i ignored him. Then at 7.45pm i had to go up as didnt want him waking ds2. Gave him a drink and a cuddle and he cried when i left. Eventually fell asleep.
I dont know what to do. I spend as much time as i can with him. At the w/e i try to have just me and him time. Where am i going wrong?? I dont have anyone to help me and ds2 is quite poorley which doesnt help. What can i do?? He has a toy for sleep, night night etc...what else can i try??